Grief is a multi-faceted response to loss. Although conventionally focused on the emotional response to loss, it also has a physical, cognitive, behavioural, social and philosophic...
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Just want to thank everyone who has been so supportive in their kind words and prayers regarding my recent loss.
It would seem that we are all going thru the same pain and the question is how to we all handle the grief we're suffering from? Obviously keeping busy is a MUST and for myself I'm trying to counsel Carlleen's son who is 21 and suffers from schitzophrenia. He is receiving the right medication which allows him to live a fairly normal life. This is my biggest challenge as I know Carlleen wanted Chris to be successful in life and I want to do all I can do to make that happen. But the bottom line is the emptiness one feels when one is alone and the frustration of missing all of the wonderful things you enjoyed with your partner or family member whose physical presence we all miss so much. For me this is the biggest battle of all as I had a partner who brought out the very best in me and who I always felt so comfortable with. It seems almost as though things are getting harder not easier and after almost 6 weeks it is if anything becoming more difficult to handle. I try to socialise with family and friends and go swimming to get some exercise but I need perhaps to find other ways of dealing with the situation I'm in. Does anyone have any suggestions on how they have made things easier for themselves. I'm sure many of us would appreciate some input on how this can be achieved as I know our loved ones would not want us to be sad...Many Thanks Bryan Bryan Posted on 05/18/08, 01:05 pm |
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Know that immediately after my sister's death, have felt the need to be around people, and at other times, wanted to be alone.
My brother-in-law seems to be handling this very well... He is very active in church and has even begun participating in a single's group.....not for 'dating' -- but to be around others who have experienced loss in some way..... Time is the great healer, but the grieving process is so different for us all.... 
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Lastnight a friend came over and brought some of his friends that I've never met. I was really ticked at the situation as I wasn't in the mood to be sociable and make small talk with strangers. In the end, I think it turned out to be a good thing b/c I was forced to be around these people who turned out to be very kind and friendly.
But, today I got together with my closest family members and my loved one was barely mentioned...which made me feel very lonely and sad. Right now everything I do is absolutely forced. Even simple things like getting out of bed, getting dressed, eating. I guess time will help...other than that I just don't know.
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My friend whose father passed away 15 years ago said the awful feeling of intense gloom which is ever present to begin with does subside eventually. She said it becomes an occasional emotion but it's still dreadful when it does appear with the realisation that you're never going to see them again. I never want to forget my sister but life must become more bearable. I returned to work today - tough but I got through it so that's another milestone in the long haul I suppose. Good luck Bryan and All x
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I am new to this but am seeking some kind of assurance that time will heal my lonelness and heartache. I lost my Mother on June 16 suddenly. She was fine one night and gone the next morning. I am still in disbelief. I look around to see where she is. I am the oldest of six children and my siblings or I have never had much of a relationship with our Dad even though him and my Mother were married 51 yrs. June 1. I feel like it is my responsibility to keep everyone together and going but right now I'm just not emotionally able to be there for my Dad or siblings and I feel guility. I have six children and a wonderful supportive husband. All of my children are grown, my last one marrying on May 3 which I have not done very well dealing with the empty nest syndrome and now my Mother's loss. Right now I just feel so alone and lost. I don't really know what I want.
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