Grief is a multi-faceted response to loss. Although conventionally focused on the emotional response to loss, it also has a physical, cognitive, behavioural, so...
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I'm totally devasted by the loss of my closest friend Carlleen who passed away as a result of a blood clot on her lung on April 9th.
Carlleen was the love of my life and I was so so fortunate to have her for the past 10 years or so. Carlleen was the most giving and caring person I have ever met. She was and always will be someone who loved life and had an incredible sense of humour. She worked as an X Ray Tech and I have so much respect for Hospital workers who are so dedicated in caring for others. Carlleen dealt with life and death situations every day and contributed so much to others. I'm like a lost soul without her as what happened was so totally unexpected at her 51 years of age. I know Carly would not want me to grieve as much as I am but it is so difficult to handle life without her. I think losing a parent is really difficult but to lose the person closest to you is even more devasting. Am trying to keep myself busy counselling Carly's son whom I regard as a stepson. I'm really fortunate to have some great friends but I really find the time I spend on my own to be the most difficult. I drove 1000 miles to Memphis to visit my son a week or so ago alone. I found the drive vety difficult without my best friend. Would be interested in discussing my situation with others who are dealing with a similar type of grief. Posted on 05/17/08, 01:05 pm |
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I wish I could say I was in the same situation but, I'm not. I understand you missing her and yes 51 was not an age to go, I hope your getting councilling too? If you need to talk I'll voulenteer my ear, be well, keep your chin up. 
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I too find being alone the most difficult after losing my sister just over 2 weeks ago. She was a radiographer, coincidentally, aged 48, who should have had so many more years that were cruelly snatched away. It does help when you're speaking to others as you have already discovered but I find that what shows on the outside and how you feel on the inside are two different things. You're devastated but functioning in a fairly normal way at the same time. I have enrolled for counselling which I hope will help me and I think this is good advice. I know my sister wouldn't want me to be this unhappy and I'm sure your best friend would say the same if we could ask them. You're not alone - I wish you happiness for the future x
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Sorry for your loss. I too lost my best friend,my husband of nearly one year. We were together for almost 10years and decided to tie the knot. It was a year ago 5-9 and I still miss him very much.The pain lessens as time goes by but it always lets you know its not very far away. If you need someone to vent to,I'll try to help. It's good to talk to people that have been there. Take care, Lori
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i lost the love of my life 7 weeks ago this is the hardest thing i have ever done,i fel like you just go through the emotions of living everyday life,if it wasnt for the kids i dont know if i would have kept going on without him,i love him more everday he is my heart but the missing him gets harder daily
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I know how it is to lose someone special.I lost my best friend my beloved brother it will be 4 years.Frank was one of a kind.He loved The Yankees and he taught me to love sports.But my brother was very ill and he did not want me to know because he wanted me to have a life of my own and not worry about him.The date was 7/18/2004.It was a sunday.Frank called me.This was unlike him.His voice was so sad.I asked what was wrong.Frank said"I wish I could die".When he said this,I knew.I knew that he was sick and I am living in seattle.I did not have the monetary means to be there.When Frank said that he wanted to die.I said this"Frank.please do not say this.What going to happen to me if anything happens to you." Then Frank said these words."You have to learn to live without me." He then went to say for me to remember the house and the dogs. To remember the first time that we saw Elvis Presley.And to remember him the way that he was.NOT THE AWAY THAT HE BECAME WITH THIS ILLNESS.I remember him now the way that he was and I still cry.But I know that he is there watching me.ANd he will always be beside me.I hope that this helps you.Cheerio.
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