Bereavement Support Group

OK TIME DOES MAKES THINGS BETTER. I LOST TWO BOYS IN MY LIFETIME ALREADY AND I AM ONLY 36YRS OLD. I LOST ONE CHILD WHEN HE WAS 6WKS OLD TO SIDS HE WENT TO SLEEP ONE NIGHT AND NEVER WOKE UP THAT WAS DEVESTATING BUT I KNEW I COULD EITHER GO INTO A STATE OF DEPRESSION OR FIND THE COURAGE WITHIN ME TO MOVE ON AND REALIZE THAT I CANNOT CHANGE WHAT HAPPENED BUT I CAN HELP CHANGE MY FUTURE. SO I WENT ON THE NEXT YR TO HAVE ANOTHER SON HE IS NOW 12 AND VERY SPECIAL TO ME I HAVENT FORGOTTEN THE SON I LOST BUT I HAD SO MUCH LOVE TO GIVE THAT I FELT THAT I DESERVED TO GIVE IT ANOTHER SHOT. THEN IN JUNE OF 05 WHILE MY HUBBY WAS OVERSEAS IN IRAQ I WENT INTO LABOR EARLY AT 25WKS AND UNFORTUNATLEY HAD TO HAVE AN EMERGENCY C SECTION AND MY SON ONLY LIVED 90MINS. I WAS ALONE AND HAD TO SAY GBYE TO MY NEW SON ALL ALONE BOY THAT WAS THE TUFFEST THING I HAVE EVER HAD TO DO KNOWING IN YA ARMS IS UR CHILD THAT YOU KNOW ISNT GOING TO MAKE IT AND YOU HAVE TO SAY GBYE TO EVERYTHING HE WONT GET TO SMILE OR GO TO SCHOOL OR I WONT GET TO SEE HIM TAKE HIS FIRST STEPS I MEAN IT WAS HORRIBLE. BUT SOMEHOW LIKE BEFORE I GET THAT DEVIL OFF MY SHOULDER AND MOVED ON AND WE DECIDED THAT I WASNT GONNA LET GRIEF WIN AND GOT PREGNANT AGAIN AND I HAD MY LAST SON AND HE IS GREAT! I MEAN MY MIRACLE BABY. I FELT THAT I HAD TO MOVE ON FROM MY LOSS'S NO MATTER WHAT BECAUSE I CANT CHANGE WHAT HAPPENED I CAN ONLY CHANGE WHAT MY FUTURE HOLDS. I LOST MY BABIES I DIDNT WANT TO LOSE MY MIND AND MY FAMILY I WASNT GONNA LET NOTHING STOP ME FROM LIVING MY DREAMS. SO I AM VERY SORRY FOR YOUR LOSS BUT THERE IS LIGHT AT THE END OF THE TUNNELL BUT YOU HAVE TO WANT TO FIND IT AND WALK THRU IT CANT NO ONE DO IT FOR YOU. I WISH U THE BEST OF LUCK AN IF YOU EVER WANT TO TALK PLEASE LET ME KNOW !

Sometimes life is overwhelming. That's not mental illness. I lost my daughter 17 years ago at 28 and still feel the pain. I have just learned to go on with my life, mainly because of the people who need me. You cannot get over losing a child, you learn to live it. I do think after all this time, you need to see a professional in grief counselling to help you move on. We went to a counsellor and we eventually had a family therapy meeting because we realized we were not the only ones who lost her. Her siblings and her grandmother lost her too. Realizing this helped us to move on. Personally I can always tell when I meet a parent who has lost a child. I can see the pain in their eyes, even when they're laughing. I'm sure your son would want you to move on and maybe that should be your motivation to seek help. I heard something I hadn't thought about before: when you lose someone young, they are forever young because you do not see them age. My daughter is as beautiful as she was at 28 and she would be 46 today.

its awful, its a hard and sore place for us to be in. many of us are there. i am there, talk to me, and i'll talk to you. we keep talking

i would say go for the med. you are in a depression and need some help to move on for your young daughter's sake she needs her mom. they should start you out on something mild i would thing. this is what they did with my hubby. you should not think that it is a bad thing to take some meds to help you thru this.