Bereavement Support Group

I am not sure how to open up a discussion of life after death. Prior to my wife passing I did'nt believe at all. However, something happened that has changed my mind. I will share with you now for the first time. First, some background. My wifes dad (my father in law) died at the age of 44 from cancer, Sherry (my wife) was 16 at the time..... Fast forward 33 years.... Sherry was diagnosed with cancer 2/14/08, the outlook was bleak, the cancer was very aggressive. By mid April she was extremely weak and the Drs. had given us a terminal diagnosis (weeks). On saturday 4/19 She was laying on the couch, I was beside her wiping her forehead with a wash cloth and helping her to drink. Out of the blue she said "my dad wants to know if he can take me on Monday"? then, "what are we doing Monday"? I told her that we had radiation treatment in the morning, iv hydration in the afternoon. She asked "what is the difference between Monday and Tuesday"? I gave her the Tuesday agenda and she pondered my response with an inquisitive "hmmm". Now, keep in mind that the cancer had spread to her brain and it was difficult, if not impossible, for her to have lucid conversation. But these questions were crystal clear. That night a couple of friends brought me dinner and I broke down in the kitchen when I told them that I thought Sherry was going to die on Monday, but could'nt explain why. Later that night as I carried her to bed and was rubbing lotion on her legs, arms, hands etc. She said "Dad says we will be playing together again soon". I cried and told her that I knew, and it was going to be ok. Sunday lots of friends and family came to visit then Sunday night she gave her mom and brother a hug and told them she loved them. Sherry died Monday morning 4/21 at 7:45am, she woke me at 6am saying "honey !, Oh' Daddy", "oh Daddy". And then slowly slid away over the next couple of hours very peacefully.

I was a complete non-believer in anything like "life after death" and communication from beyond. Actually I would win every debate arguing against it. However, now I can guarantee you that there is "something" else. I don't know what it is, or what it could be. But I am certain that Sherry was taken to the "spirit world" (for lack of a better term), by her dad.

I hope she is the one who comes to take me. For in that moment that she left there was NOTHING but complete love and peace surrounding us. I believe... I believe...
Posted on 05/08/08, 06:05 pm