What is Bereavement

Grief is a multi-faceted response to loss. Although conventionally focused on the emotional response to loss, it also has a physical, cognitive, behavioural, so...

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I am really mad today-i'm hurting badly & crying & don't feel like he's there for me. Why would he allow me to be in so much pain? If he really truly loves me he would take it away. I can't stand it-i want my dad back-i miss his voice. Why did he do this to me & to him? I don't understand how this is supposed to "make me stronger" as people say. All it's done thusfar is hurt me by not allowing me to sleep well, giving me chest pains, trouble breathing. I never had any of this before & now i've got all this stuff wrong w/me-why won't he help me? He keeps allowing it to pile on. I thought he was supposed to handle my burdens, but i feel like i'm handling it all myself.
Posted on 04/18/08, 01:04 pm
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Reply #1 - 04/18/08  1:44pm
" This is all very normal, and I understand your pain and frustration. When you are grieving it is truly hard to feel His presense but God is with you, I believe that when we lose someone God cries with us, and He fully understands us being angry with him-God has taken your dad to a place that is beautiful and one day you will reunite with him, spending eternal life togethor..I hope this helped and didnt offend you this is the belief I feel in my heart. I tell my daughter when she gets really upset over her brothers passing to close her eyes and picture what a wonderful place Heaven is..I do it too and sometimes it helps me. If you need to talk I am here for you. "
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Reply #2 - 04/18/08  1:56pm
" I'm so sorry you're hurting so badly but you have to realize that this is part of the process of grieving and it WILL get better. It just takes time, sometimes a LOT of time.
As for God, I can't speak for him (her or it, depending on your idea of divinity), but things happen when they're supposed to happen. Your dad is gone because it was time for him to go. No one is supposed to LIKE any of this but it's just the way things are. My mother died 6 weeks ago. She was my best friend and closest confidant and I miss her too but she was very sick and wasn't going to get better so I knew it was time for her to go. The other day my boss called me and fired me. I still don't know why. So I know how overwhelming all this can be. I'm pretty overwhelmed myself right now. But by reaching out and telling people what's going on and how you feel you've already taken a step toward healing. I know things are dark right now but you can't get out of a dark place by sitting down in the middle of it. You have to keep moving on. Just take it one step at a time. Get through today and don't worry about tomorrow until it gets here. Not being able to sleep and crying all the time are perfectly normal right now. I've been doing a lot of it too, and it does help. "
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Reply #3 - 04/18/08  2:02pm
" Sorry you are hurtin so badly. I want you to think of the poem Footprints. It says that when you see one set of footprints, it is God carrying you. He is always with you and He is helping you even when you don't see or feel it. He is with you at all times. Don't despair. Keep praying to Him and you will feel peace. It takes time. Grieving is such hard work. And missing someone is terrible. But you will do ok. You will make it through this rough time and come out stronger. It just takes time. God is with you.
Becky "
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Reply #4 - 04/18/08  2:08pm
" Thanks-I did remember the Footprints but i don't feel two sets of footprints are there right now-i feel hurt, left & abandoned & don't think it was right my dad being taken away. He just went to sleep & never woke up, so young. Why would God do that? Sure he didn't allow my dad to suffer but all the rest of us are. I'm not happy about this-this sucks! I wish i could erase him completely to make this horrible pain just go away. I dont really mean that but it would be great just to have it go away completely when it really hurts. "
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