Bereavement Support Group

The people at the funeral home gave you some good advice.
Some studies have shown, that especially in couples who have been together for several decades, the one left behind seems to rapidly decline in health and die within a short period of the other. I don't know how far the studies have gone in proving that it was related to grief.
You probably should seek the help of a health care professional though.
HUggs, Rainbow

Thank you ranbow, however at this juncture, for me, death is not the enemy

I agree with AstridW, that death is not the enemy. I also know though that our loved one wants us to be at peace with all that has happened. There is a Dutch saying, translated, If you keep looking back your going to run into a lamppost. I'm trying very hard to go on with living not just existing.

Yep, I can relate. I've been riding my bicycle a lot, eating right, etc., but I still feel pretty heartbroken sometimes, or I feel nothing at all. Gonna need a lot of tender-loving-care here...

People have died of heartbreak, I feel like Im dieing, But I cant, I cant because theres already to much pain.

You can, I almost did. After my first husband died and then my gramma a couple months later, I guess I went into a deep depression but I was functioning. I am a small women, 90 pounds at peak. I kept forgetting to eat, it wasn't conscious I would just forget. Guess I wasn't getting enough fluids either, went into convulsions on my porch one day and had to be rushed to the hospital. My body had started eating itself and I was severly dehydrated, was there over 2 weeks.
I have to make a concious effort to eat and drink, have to set my alarm to remind me. And now that I'm aware of this I make sure it doesn't happen to me again.
That's why you have to take care of yourself and be aware of what your body is going through. Stress is known to cause all sorts of health problems especially if it occurs over an extended period of time.

Mind, spirit and body are intimately connected. Grief over the loss of my Mom had me to the doctor several times earlier this year. Diagnosed with depression and anxiety disorder for the first time in my life. Severe chest pains that my doctor said went deeper, meaning to my soul because of Mom's death.
Agree with another poster, death is not the enemy for me, I know when I leave this earth, I'll be in a perfect heaven with those I've lost before that are waiting for me there.
Blessings,
Stacie

I think it could happen if you let it. My youngest daughter about greived herself to death after her sister passed. She got down to 108lbs which is very small for her. She had to have 4 pints of blood after her baby was born and a couple of months later she had to have meds taken by IV because she had let herself go so much. I can't say to much for myself, I lost 68lbs and started drinking again. By the grace of god we both are gaining weight and I stopped drinking everyday. So it really depends on the person I think. My prayers are with you all.

I believe you can, I think it's just more recognized with older couples. I think my grief and pain is slowly killing me, at least thats how I feel. Stress does affect our health, and so does pain. You're not alone.

I agree with KellyCold, My father died 10 days later than my step mom, my mother died 3 years ago. I truly believe he died of heartbreak. I understand, I feel I may have the same thing happen. I am constantly anxietied out, subject to crying for no reason, failed relationships, dont feel understood, etc. I know this is transitory, just hope I will see the other side. Dont get me wrong, I dont want to end it, I have two wonderful children to live for, I am just in so much pain right now....