Bereavement Support Group

Yes. Still hurting badly.

Anyone else told by the born-agains that their loved 1 is burning in hell?

Yikes at the burning in hell thing. What cruel evil person would say something like that. Your loved ones are not burning in hell. I mean its bad enough someone dies then you get told their in hell. For the love of. I have been through two sucides prior to my daughters murder. Never for a moment did I think they were in hell. I thought they were selfish, I thought they had only thought of themselves. I thought they had abandoned me. But never in hell. Ignore those rejects. They talk of christianity and god and of their faith. Yet in the process they lose their compassion and love. Your lost loved ones are in your hearts and there they will stay. And I dare someone to say a persons love of heart is hell.

I'm not grieving a suicide, but I just wanted to say A) I'm sorry about your loss and that some you love took their own life. And B) I cannot believe someone said your loved-one is in Hell! That makes me so incredibly angry. What happened to compassion. Even if they believe that, could they not keep it to themselves? Was it supposed to make you feel better? I would not be able to contain myself, I'd have punched them or kicked them very hard if someone said that to me!

I have to disagree about the selfish statement. Sometimes the pain is so much that it poisons everyone around you, then it's a well-intentioned act, not a selfish one.

yes and it was a selfish act that affected many people badly. I heard the "burn in hell" thing too, that is BS, These people were so sick they took their own life, that's it, no more no less, out of our control for sure. A big hug to you.

My daughter was found hanging 3 weeks ago. Police and family are still unsure from the manner it was done if it is suicide or not. Lots of things "don't add up" so cause is still unclear, but suicide really destroys the ones who are left. That is one thing I know.

My husband hanged himself 11 years ago. My daughter and I found him in the garage one morning.

The priest at his funeral told me that my husband is in heaven and he needs our prayers because he must have been in a lot of pain to do what he did.

It took me a long, long time to stop feeling guilty. It was not my fault. It was his choice to kill himself.

I read a great book, "Those Left Behind." It is about suicide survivors.

God Bless all of you who are suicide survivors. Take care.

Yes I am. My sister jumped off a bridge a year ago April 18th, 2006. We just had a memorial and it feels like it has all come back to haunt me.

Yes, it has been 9 years, and I am still grieving about it... I'm afraid that I always will be. (it was my fiance.)