Bereavement Support Group

I am sorry for your loss and not sure that I have any advice but I am here to tell you your are not alone....On March 31st 2008 I became a widow the very same way. I was at work by 6 am and by 10:30am the cops were there to tell me my husband died on his way to work. We were high school sweethearts, together for almost 16 years with 2 kids and now I am alone. I fell so lost and empty because this is all new. we had our whole lives ahead of us and now I have to do it alone. I often say that I woke up married and went to bed a widow I am if you ever need to talk, just message me.

i am so sorry for your loss. i have watched my mother struggle with the same thing. her and dad were married nearly 51 years. we are all grown and all she has at home is her cat. she had been married since she was 16 and never made a decision by herself. since 2002 she has became stronger, and made some real tough decisions. i will keep you in my prayers. hugs jan

I feel very sorry but have no words of advice. Grief is very complex and there is no cure (I've been told by the experts). We, somehow, have to put one foot in front of the other and take baby steps forward.

I am so sorry. Your pain in very intense, and unbearable and for that I am so sorry. My husband left in Feb. 2008 and I still cry all the time. I don't know how long this awful pain last, but I don't want to carry on either, but I think I have no choice. I have two children as well, and that is why I am still here. I feel like life will never be worth living ever again, but I think this is a normal feeling. Again, I am sorry, I would never wish this pain on anyone.

I am so sorry for your loss. I didn't lose my husband but I lost my 15 month old son 2-3-08. If I did not have my daughter (his twin) I would not go on. You have children and grandchildren that need you. Everyday when you wake up that's what will keep you going.

I am so sorry for your loss - I can't give you any advice - I lost my husband of 40 year almost l7 years ago and I still miss him. I got by by just taking it one day at a time - as I am now that I lost my son. hugs and prayers donaP

I have recently lost a man that I considered my dad.His death was sudden,unexpected and I didn't know how to handle it.His funeral was last Friday...Friday the 13th,my 41st birthday!
Here is what I told his wife...he was a good man,he loved people and he loved his family.Having a dedicated loving man as many years as God gave her was a gift.
I married my high school sweetheart,he was all thatI knew...then in 2000,I found out that my suspicions were true,he was cheating.To make it worse,it was his best friend's girlfriend,and a woman I had considered a friend.He turned his back on a 17 year relationship and broke up our family.
When you lose someone in death...yes,it is final,but it is NOT by choice.I was bitter and angry because I wanted to grow old with this man,watch our grandchildren play together and travel when our kids were grown.It was yanked away abruptly...but he made that choice.He stopped loving me,for whatever reason,and I felt flawed and discarded.
When someone we love is taken from us in death,the emptiness and depression is hard to deal with...but take comfort in the fact that he loved you until the end of his life and you have all of those memories that you gave him...not just that he gave you.What would you want for HIM if he were still there without you?You'd want him to love every day of his life and find what happiness he could.Your love was a beautiful gift that you were given and it's ok to get mad and frustrated that it ended so unfairly,but use that grief.There are so many people who don't have anyone or know what that kind of love is like.
When my husband left,I took to my bed,didn't eat,didn't sleep,didn't care.I wanted to curl up and dissapear.When I finally got over my depression,I volunteered at the local senior center and food bank.I also became a girl scout leader and the kids gave me a reason to keep going.
You can't change the tragedy of what happened,but keep yourself busy,be social,go to church,donate your time if you can...it can really help give your life a different perspective while working through your grief.
Enjoy your family,see him living on through your children and grandchildren.His prescence may be gone,but he lives on though them.

I wasnt with my boyfriend as long as you were with your husband but i just hit the year mark. my boyfriend was coming home at around 10:30 at night on his motorcycle when he was hit with a drunk driver. I am now raising our 2 year old daughter alone. I guess my favorite phrase over the last year has been a line from a movie that has nothing to do with this topic, its " just breath" sometimes that even hurts but there is nothing else that will get you through that moment of grief. i wish i had something else but for the most part it is one meltdown at a time. my thoughts and prayers are with you

I don't know if I have any advice either. Just know that u are not alone. My husband of 16 years passed away on June 4th. Yes we knew he had cancer, but it all happened so quickly. 35 days after the diagnosis. When we were diagnosed I thought is it better to know it is coming, or just happen. From the time u find out, you are a nervous wreck wondering how are u going to survive without him. I was crying all the time, and already grieving while he was still here. I thought we would have at least 6months to a year. Now i look back and see that maybe it is better to know, because I got to say my goodbyes and I held him while he was dying. So I too woke up a wife and went to bed a widow. It has been 2 weeks for me, and the pain is still unbearable. But I know they would not want us to do the best we can, and live for that day until we can be together again, please take care, Pam

please remove the not in my sentence about doing the best we can. They would want us to go on. I should've proofread a little better.