Autism / Autism Spectrum Support Group

i would recomment you go to your local autstic trus/support group as they will have information about help and support in your local area. they will give you ideas and contacts to help you find ways of helping your son. My son is 18 with autism and i have 2 nephews aged 17 and 14 that sound just like your son.........they are currently seeing psychologists,having CBT and also having their educationa nd living arrangements for the future assesed...... maybe he is finding it hard to accept his diagnosis? that his what happened to my son and it has caused LAOT of problems, but with alot of intervention from professionals, we are getting there now.

Get an assessment NOW of all of his skills,
functioning ability and so on.

In California Alta Regional will PAY for much of his needs and assistance if he qualifies. It sounds like he does.

He also will likely qualify for SSI (social security Income) This is only for the disabled) and clearly he is functioning as a disabled person.

He cannot hold down a job with that sort of behavior.

Part of the problem is being allowed to act this way. You said he has a younger brother.
Stop the nasty attitude and behaviors ASAP.

I would not give him a choice concerning help.

bubsmum has a great idea.
Take him to some gatherings for boys like him.

Go to meetings for kids and young adults like him.

I've never had an interest in dating either.
I have autism.
I have very little need for other humans too.
Part of this has to do with being overwhelmed with too much stimuli.

I need a down time between activities.
If I don't do the down time, I'm nasty and it's not intentional.

I was abrasive as one could be before I received "Neurofeedback" Not biofeedback.

They recomend 2 to 3 days per week.
I did it one day per week and it was like a miracle.

Here is a site to find a provider near you.
http://www.eegspectrum.com


This vest cools my body when I start sweating for no reason.
This vest brings me out of melt down or high distress.
I don't know how it works and it does.
Shift3 Shiatsu Comfort Massage Vest
http://www.overstock.com/Health-We...

Because I over heat so often and being too hot really makes it hard for me to be pleasant or sleep; I plan to by the folling for sleep.


http://www.frontgate.com/jump.jsp?...
I plan to purchase this because I use the AC so much so I can sleep.

There are cooling vests. I've used very lard soft ice packs but other Auti's use the following.

http://www.steelevest.com/index.as...

There are brands that last for 4 and 5 hours too.

Teach him down time and self soothing behaviors.

Same with your younger child.

I hope this helps.

Bubsmom is right, you need to find help in areas and places that he can relate to - this may take some time but it will be worth it - for both the boys. There is not gonna be any at home remedy especially for conquering socialization - there is also no magic pill for this most anything help wise for these angels goes hand in hand with some sorta counseling or group therapy - i started my son seeing a behavorial psychologist and he's only 5 - i studied the ASD and related disorders to know that social and behavior is going to be a problem, unfortunately you are just now discovering the answer to many of the questions you've had for years - so you are getting a later start - but no start is ever tooo late - there is always help. I know at his age he maybe having a hard time accepting that "he has something" but in reality, even though some of us may not know it, we all "have something" Jesus is the only human that had a perfect body, mind and soul. i truly hate to think what sorta obstacles he will truly face in life without seeking help now - My prayers are with you.

WOW, Thank You so Much..I Need to hear this..I am calling today to add my older son to a program in my Area I have set up for my Youngest son..Weather he likes it or Not!!!
He has such a Nasty tone when he talks and he is tring to adjust that but we need more help then I can give him...
Ty and God Bless.. :)
Donna