Autism / Autism Spectrum Support Group

Perhaps you could discuss this matter with a local clergy member.

Wow,

I wrote a journal entry of my side of the fence, and attend an adult panel of autistic people to hear their side of how coping with it throughout life.

I just have to say, be proud of who you are, i know it's hard but it's you and this is something that will never go away. There's many things i wished would be better inside and outside of me and I'm what society calls "normal".

I'm a child and youth worker and God i wish i could give you my eyes for a day to experience and see the frustration of these kids. You special needs people are angels, so innocent and non judgmental, just wanting to make friends and be accepted.

I myself grew up being made fun of and still do, thats what's so ugly about the world today. People are ignorant and closed minded and their only reaction is to take it out on innocent people who live with things that's out of their control.

I've got into many verbal fights for my son, having kids and adults just laugh and stare at him like he's some alien. I'm his biggest supporter, advocate and defender. As long as I'm alive, nobody will make my son out to be this monster he isn't.

I prayed for many years like yourself, asking why, why my child had to affected with this disorder and have such a hard time when he is just an innocent soul that wants love and i have been always a supportive, accepting and understanding person towards disabled people all my life. My mother taught me to love and accept and never make fun of people cause we're all God's children. So when i found out my son had a disability i felt betrayed and lost my faith.

As time went on with this disorder, i would pray and beg for my son to talk to me, that was my biggest dream....

Today he's 9 years old and talks up a storm and started at 7. He always had words, well one word up till he was 5-6 then it was 2-3 and bang at 7 it was like a strike of a miracle, basically functioning like a "regular kid" and he's mild.

Stay strong and be proud, it's hard but nobody's perfect. Think of all of what you accomplished and achieved and smile. God is with you and always will be and loves you and no matter what you feel to him YOU ARE THIS "NORMAL" SOCIETY SPEAKS OF AND PERFECT TO HIM. Things will go your way, never give up sweetie

I am ashamed to say i am going down that same path... trials of faith what is it? It seems u can pray and ask for something so simple but the prayers do not get answered.. is God hearing me? Im not asking for riches not at all. They say "god works in mysterious ways" and this is just a stepping stone for the real life. I di believe he gives me strenght I get tired tho...
sometimes i just don't know either.
So ur not alone.

One night a man had a dream. He dreamed
he was walking along the beach with the LORD.


Across the sky flashed scenes from his life.
For each scene he noticed two sets of
footprints in the sand: one belonging
to him, and the other to the LORD.


When the last scene of his life flashed before him,
he looked back at the footprints in the sand.


He noticed that many times along the path of
his life there was only one set of footprints.


He also noticed that it happened at the very
lowest and saddest times in his life.


This really bothered him and he
questioned the LORD about it:


"LORD, you said that once I decided to follow
you, you'd walk with me all the way.
But I have noticed that during the most
troublesome times in my life,
there is only one set of footprints.
I don't understand why when
I needed you most you would leave me."

The LORD replied:


"My son, my precious child,
I love you and I would never leave you.
During your times of trial and suffering,
when you see only one set of footprints,
it was then that I carried you."



written by Mary Stevenson

Even David wandered in the desert and hid in caves from Saul for years. But he stayed loyal to GOD. Things don't happen over nite. And we don't always get the answer we want. I always preyed that people would stop teasing and lying about me for over 44 years. Recently I found out that I am an ASPIE. In a way GOD has answered my prayer just not the answer I expected or wanted. But things are starting to get better.

Hi TyTribute,

I grew up in a war zone. I was the middle child of eleven kids and every day was a fight to get my needs met. I was a hero and a scapegoat, a fighter and a victim, a winner and a loser but most of all I was afraid. Always afraid of what the next struggle would be. After college I started to have a lot of neck pain and I tried yoga, therapy, aerobics and all kinds of other things that really didn’t help me all that much. Then one day I took martial arts. After the first class I realized I felt better. Not only did I feel better I felt well physically, emotionally and spiritually right down to my soul. Why were these classes changing my self esteem on such a profound level? In fact I pondered this for several months. And then it came to me. I was embracing my fear. I was living my fear and doing it anyway. I was allowing myself to control my life and when something bothered me I was giving myself permission to face it head on. It was empowering and I felt good about myself.

TyTribute you have a perspective on this disease that not many on this site have. Your understanding and experience can help others to take the right path. By embracing this disease and getting involved you can empower yourself and others to find answers. From adopt a family to the fight for more social support for autism to prevention to the fight to get thimerasol out of vaccines you can pick and choose a way to get involved. My guess is you will feel better in the process. And so I say have your fear and do it anyway. Embrace your fear and you will find strength in you that you have never felt before. You are an amazing person!

I believe I have recently been poisoned by metals and I have decided to get involved in the metals/mercury debate and it is healing me. I’m a fighter and I’m not planning on giving up anytime soon.

Just because you did NOT get the answers you requested does NOT mean you were NOT heard and that your prayer was NOT answered.

I strongly believe that each of us was put here on Earth by God to learn something, to experience something to take back with us when we go home.

I have NO idea why you have had to endure autism. But, look at you, you've even been to college. I pray that my son will one day be able to attend college. But, I just don't see it as a real possibility unless something changes drastically.

Be proud of who you are. You are YOU!!! Unique and special!!! Perhaps that is the thing you have got to learn here on Earth. As people, we are all different and unique. Yes, you are prolly much different from your peers. But, that doesn't mean you are not special and bring something to the world that others cannot.

You are a blessing. NEVER forget it!!!

God loves you just the way you are!!!

Hugs and God Bless,

gaylek11

After having grown up in a strict Catholic environment I often think back on the teachings of the Catholic Church and how punishing their God was. I remember on a poster they had a picture of a red heart and on it a black mark. We were told this was our original sin. Even as a child I knew it was wrong. I knew that we are all born perfect in every way even if we were not perfect. And so I often thought; is my God a punishing God or a forgiving and loving God. I was never one for believing in things that made no sense to me. I wanted to have spirituality in my life but I did not like this punishing God and so this is what I came up with for me; a loving God.

My God is my co-pilot (I like to fly) my God sits in the cockpit next to me in the co-pilot’s seat and I fly the plane. He is there to guide me and watch over me but it’s me who flies the plane and lands it safely. Sometimes I can even put it on automatic pilot but I am still responsible for taking over the controls when I need to do so. I can talk to my God and ask for his guidance but it is my flight to manage and my life to lead. My God loves me unconditionally and does not judge me. My God sees me make mistakes and knows that I will learn from my mistakes and because he is my co-pilot my God knows that to step in means I will not learn from my mistakes. Therefore my God stays in the co-pilot’s seat and I would have it no other way.

Hi ! God Bless you.! Life is tough, I know--perhaps you should pray for God's will to be done, for Him to give you strength, for you to see the bright side, perhaps how you can reach/touch other people BECAUSE of your autism, and how you have already blessed other people with your disability. I know life for you is very challenging, but there's ALWAYS a positive side!! Our son is autistic, and life is hard, but so blessed also by the little things, like how loving he is, how much of a deeper-meaning he has given to us--he has touched everyone's life around him with such joy & fulfillment!! I'll bet you have too!! Maybe you were put here on earth to bring fulfillment to other autistics & show them God's love!! How awesome that would be, & that would make you happy, mentally, & not suffering!! And teach them that they can do anything, like you--going to college, etc.!! That's a great accomplishment! Our son is only 8, on the low-functioning end, and has behavior problems, so I can't even imagine that for him. But you have a lot to feel good about!! Cheer up!!

my husband wanted me to write and tell you that you need to remember that God always answeres prayer, sometimes we dont get the answer we wanted, but He know best. Our adversity makes us stronger ppl. Perhaps you are being led thru these trials so that God can use you to help others that are in them. God only gives adversity to those He feels are strong enough to deal with them. keep tour chin up and remember that all things work together for the good