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I felt that way as well. Over time I realized I was still shutting people out. It became easier as I began to experience the tie I had in my support group. I felt alone because I had left all my playmates behind. I felt a part of when I accepted my recovering "peers" as my friends.

Maybe that lonliness is a longing inside to get to know your true self better? We have everything we need to feel fufilled inside us. I would search there first, get a good loving relationship with you, and God if you see it this way. Once you find this, others are only an enhancement.

Today I find ways to participate rather than isolate.

yes, jon, i am always lonely and, yes, jon, always on the outside looking in. i have attempted to forge a different path but the truth of it is i've not been successful. i could give you a thousand reasons why but that does not negate i've been unsuccessful. while, i understand why that is it will never, ever make up for be part of. it will not happen though the hope was there from time to time. sometimes, we simply cannot rise above what is so totally engrained and we falter. my purpose is to make the best of what little i have, what little transient hope i entertained will one day tell my daughter that her mother fought, though she might not know that, to find her way to her (my babygirl). you were loved, maia, and i beg God in his heavens to touch your heart so you will always know you will forever my legacy. my child that i am most proud. you are the best that can come from me. my touchstone. my gift, my maia, to the world. i am your wayward mother. you are my gift from a loving and forgiving God.

Sometimes in a room full of family and friends I still feel alone,the connections not there.Or I'm afraid to make it.When you don'feel worthy of anything the thinking is wrong.You have done so much so far,I guess we have to become vulnerable,when we want to be invisible.Its not easy but I know you can do it.The first steps the hardest.You will be surprised That people feellike you. afraid of being hurt.Safety is what we want.Sometimes we need to step out of that zone.You never know the treaures you might find.

Jon all my life as back as I can remember I had always felt different and alone.

I had some the ism's of my disease. Not feeling good enough ,feeling less than,not feeling equal to.feeling I had three left feet, feeling like a square peg in a round hole.It's no wonder I grew up with low self esteem , even when i ran with a few gangs as I got older I never felt part of the gang.alone in a crowd.

They say the alcoholic is one of the loneliest people on earth yet the only person who can look down on someone else from the gutter.I was a living example of that.

Even today I find it hard to be around people though I am getting better at it. but what i have found in recovery there's a big difference between being lonely and being alone.

Today I can be alone and not lonely no need for panic attacks or reaching out for a bottle to try and drown my fears but it's taken a lot of work just sitting in it doesn't work.

Today I am comfortable with me and who i am so that helps with loneliness. how i got here is a long story i am willing to share with anyone but to long for here.

My loneliness was pushed aside when I replaced it with a loving God, helping others and cleaning house.

Thankyou for your post.

God Bless.

Lionel

What you are feeling is common in almost all alcoholichs. We feel like we are alone, like we don't fit in, we don't feel on the inside like what we see on the outside of others. We develope a big black hole of fear inside. We become overly shy or outgoing. We drink to overcome that feeling.
May I suggest that you start attending AA you will meet and make friends with sober people and you will come to realize that you are not so unique and alone in this world. It will also help you to discover if you are truly alcoholic.
I wish you luck and hope you will find the pathway that will solve your problems. One thing at this point another relationship is not the proper path iit will only delay and multiply your grief.

I identify so much with Sober2day.

I used to feel really lonely and thefefore would escape into a bottle. I thought the whole of my life was my problem. I thought I was not good enough to be loved, that no one wanted me and that I was a failure (I just couldnt live up to my own expectations let alone anyone elses!).

Someone then pointed out that I was alone and that fits better with me. I am alone due to the choices I have made.

Today I can now be home alone (which was always my issue before hence my drinking) and I chose to not be lonely and escaping. Today, I can just be and it is an awesome feeling :)

i think everyone gets lonely at times..we dont even have to be alone for this.what i've learned to do about that feeling when i get it might sound silly but i usually tell myself how much i love me and that im proud of me and that everythings going to be okay.it may sound selfish but i think its about time i love me..life on lifes terms to me means i cant change life or others but i definately can change my behavior and negative feelings..

This is a major problem of many alcoholics. Mostly it's a habit we pick up along our drinking journey. We have spent much time trying to hide ourselves from others. We feel that if we let anyone, really know us, they couldn't possibly like us. Lonliness was a big factor to me. I remember that at the end, all I really wanted was a hug. I was so starved of love, and it was very scary. I didn't want to live in lonliness, and the thought of being alone for the remainder of my days was awfull. After being around recovery, I discovered that I could even be lonely in a crowd of people. At A.A. meetings, I felt alone. I would see that sign, "You are no longer alone," and I would really wonder how bad I might be. After a long time I decided to sincerly listen, and try some of the things I heard. i started praying. Thanking God in the morning, and before I went to bed. I soon started developing a relationship with the God of my understanding. I started looking foreward to my times with Him. I started talking to him, in my mind throughout the day. One day it dawned on me that I had been happy, and no longer felt alone, for quit some time. I still no longer feel that horrible feeling of loneliness. Try developing a relationship with God. Might work, and what have you got to lose. All the best. James