What is Alcoholism
Alcoholism is a powerful craving for alcohol which often results in the compulsive consumption of alcohol, an addiction. The cause of this craving is heavily debated, but the most ...
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why for once i can feel happy
what have i done something bad in my past life to deserve so much problems my 19 year old son got charged bying a stolen mobil that he thought was not stolen 18 november hes court date hes soloicitor said yes u say u guilty but what police trying to blame u for they cant story is this stolen mobil have beeing stolen from eople that gangs ha hurt them send them to hospital with broken noses teeth nearly dead my son bought the mobil from a friend hes friend too dirent knew they were stolen about ten boy my son age are charged what makes me angry is police not trying to find this gang to stop them last night rang my 28 dughter wish herhappy birthday shes 28 :O00 ) one expcting the baby she threw me the bomb that her hubby was married div with a child i except it because i dont judge some one from the cover maybe he was unhappy and wanted make a new family as i told her i want to know that shes always happy and will not want to hear he ever hits her how her father was hitting me she told me she stop talking to my mum her grandma because when my mum fid out she went crazy i made a will and gave my 3 daughters each a unit in greece this daughter her she sold it not telling me she sold it 250.000 to put money on her hubby tourist shop bussines its broke my heart that that house went into smoke and the money gone that i worked hard to buy it nd give to my kids a future for them :O(( my mum told me that my daughter plans after baby is born to go to work leave her baby to a lady to look after and her hubby to stay at the shop that wasent my kids future i wanted for them :O(( i gave them each a house to put there heads in to not suffer how i did to buy that houses but hurts me she never told me she told her father that he does not have nothing to do with that houses instead me or even take my advise or warn me :O(( i regret i gave my kids the houses instead giving it to them after my death:O(( know i do understand how parents suffer with there kids wrong behaviour in life i told my daughter i have 5 kids any of there patners later one put a finger on them hit them i will go to jail because i will have destry that person doing that to my kids i cant believe i help her study finish uni and she went and got involve in this situation? instead making a brighter life for herself ts true they say love is blind i feel 100 years old right now please my dear friend advise me what to do how to deal with the problems i passing right now ur advise i repect it xxx Posted on 10/10/08, 02:10 am |
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my dear kate,i am so sorry that this has happened.we love our children for life,they will always be our children but in reality they grow and make their own choices,good and bad.no child is exempt from making bad choices no matter what we do as parents.let her go .you did your best by your children you have done more than most can and will do.feel proud that you succeeded in giving them a chance and let them take it from here.bless you kate. 
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It sounds like it may be a hard time for you, There is a book called "CO dependency No MOre" that is really helpful for people who get run down by other peoples problems. You need to learn to take care of you, and let your kids take care of themselves. This is the healthiest way to live, even if as a mom you feel responsible for everything. Your not in control, only GOd is. Please check this book out kate
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Hi Kate,
I can't give you the answers, but I can somewhat relate. My brother is once again wasting away in jail on drug and other charges, my niece is raising two babies while living with my mother and "engaged" to an alcoholic, pill popping butt head with five other babies he doesn't support(seriously, the booze and drugs are the LEAST of his problems), my oldest sister is bankrupt despite the fact that she is the only one who received a dime from dad's will and my older brother won't have anything to do with anyone. And then there's me. I actually have no criminal or other issues but I am an alcoholic. So what I'm trying to say is that the only thing you can do is give your children the tools. Whether or not they pick them up and use them is up to them. All you can do is be strong, support them when you can and let them go when you can't. They are adults; they have to make adult decisions. You may not agree or like it, but you can't control it.
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Can't change what is done, kids make mistakes and sometimes make mistakes for a long time, but I know that some of the mistakes that I have made years ago I am very sorry for now. I am almost certain that one day your children will be sorry too. You won't be able to change that either. Just love them Kate...all you can do.
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