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i was married at one time and i have two kids out of our marrage.we been divorced for 6 yrs.we came to the agreement that i wasnt best for the kids full time.so ive been seeing them off and on everyother weekend and a phone call at the end of the week to see how they are.ive been lost ever since. i know i made the right choice.but when i see them i mourn that iam not there mom that takes care of them.and my husband now has this family that are all older and still with him and are attached to him it makes it hard for me to connect to them i always stay distant i havent figerd out why. iam deffenetly not there mother figer do to my husbands oldest being 5 yrs younger than me. we all drink and smoke pot together. i guess iam just missing a family of my own ???????thats not in addiction ??? i dont get it ??help
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Do you get high with with your ex's older children? If so, thinking you need to to set limits here. No matter what their age, they are in a different "class" of people-they are your kids step siblings-brothers and sisters. I would say keep it straight when you visit, be a mother, and if you continue to get high, do it by yourself or with your own friends. Maybe you feel guilty about this behavior and this is why you distance yourself as a mother figure from your own kids? It is up to you, I am sure that your kids miss you being there mom-kids nearly always miss and love their moms no matter what (I hope I read your post correctly btw). 
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no my current husband and i get high with his older kids when they visit us. i just think i hate my life style and i cant get out of it because we are all addicts.which in turn keeps me from being a mom to my real children who i would never get high with or drink with and thats why there with there dad whos is some what sain. and i resent the wrong people for it.. the never ending cycle..any how thank you and i hope everything with you and your hubby works out for the best......if not kick him to the curb find yourselve a young buck hahahah kidding
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Dearest Torn ~ You DO have a choice ~ there is help out there for you. I got the help I needed when I saw that I was being a bad mother to MY kids, and I got sober/clean and haven't regretted it for a minute. And you know what? I've had MORE FUN being SOBER!!! I never thought that would be possible, but it is!!!
You can do it too! There is help if you want it. Just think ~ you could have your children back in your life, full-time! What could be better than that???? Think about it. There's AA and NA out there, just for the asking ~ all you have to do is show up at a meeting. It doesn't cost anything. The only requirement is the DESIRE to stop drinking/drugging. Think about it, ok? Hugs, Lee
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