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Long story short, at least I will try. My boyfriend and I have been together 4 1/2 years. He has full custody of his 11 year old son. His son's mother left when he was a year old and has only seen him once since and hasn't had much contact through phone or anything else either. My boyfriend has been in prison since early November. Somewhere along the line, I became the "bad" cop. I was/am the person that had to remind Jake to do his chores, school work, brush his teeth, etc. His dad wanted to be his "best friend" take him to movies, hang out, etc. Now, I love Jake very much and when his father and I marry, I plan on adopting him. He and I generally have a great relationship.
The problem is, he's acting up in school. He has aliented most of his classmates in some way or another, he doesn't listen to his teachers, he is impulsive and manipulative. ANY time something happens, he says it's the other kid/teacher that is making stuff up. He cries and says he misses his dad and tries to change the subject. He will never admit to doing anything wrong and easily tries to make you feel guilty if you don't believe him. He wants people to like him so badly, but then he does things that pushes them away. I met with his teachers and counselors today. I don't know what to do here. I know he is going through and has gone through a lot, but he needs some structure. But I'm not sure how to go about doing it. I don't have any children of my own. Thanks! Posted on 02/22/08, 09:02 am |
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Wow. You have your hands full. Part of it is the child's age. My son does the same thing. Can he communicate with his dad with phone calls or letters. That might help him. Will his Dad be out soon? I would say try to show him as much love as you can. He's probably feeling very insecure about that right now and needs someone. Try being his friend too. You might also want to take him to a therapist to work out his fears and frustrations. Good Luck. 
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Wow. You have your hands full. Part of it is the child's age. My son does the same thing. Can he communicate with his dad with phone calls or letters. That might help him. Will his Dad be out soon? I would say try to show him as much love as you can. He's probably feeling very insecure about that right now and needs someone. Try being his friend too. You might also want to take him to a therapist to work out his fears and frustrations. Good Luck.
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