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I have to bribe my 5 year old to pice up his own toys. I tought by being an attentive mommy from birth want pampering him was what loving mother are supposed to do with their children. Taylor is my world. I loved him from the moment our eyes met. I have done everything for this child. And yes, I have spoiled him a little, but just a little. I do not give him everything he wants in stores or anything. But i have always catered to him at home. If he wanted milk, I got him milk. If he wanted his blanket, I got him his blanket and so on. Well, now apparently I am his slave and he orders me around. Its very frustrating. And I do realize its all my fault. My friend always tells me "we create our own monsters" and that is so true. Here I thought I was being a loving mommy and I was just creating a monster!! Does anyone have any little monsters of their own?
Posted on 02/17/07, 06:02 pm |
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pick up his own toys! 
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Give yourself a break. You haven't created a monster. It might be time to reign him in a little though. I found with my girls that you can actually still change them and teach them at this young age. When he orders you to get him something just ask him to get it himself. You can praise him and tell him what a big boy he is now and that he CAN do these things for himself now. If he fusses just tell him, "Mommy is busy right now, if you want juice you'll have to come get it yourself" or something like that. He'll love the independence it gives him. I also ended up filling the bottom drawer in my fridge with snacks and juice boxes so that hey can help themselves when they want. You'll find they love to help load the dishwasher after dinner too. Good luck.
Ashley
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If I need my children to pick up there toys, I'm very specific with them. If they walk into a room with toys strewn all about and there's a lot of disorder, it's overwhelming for them. I start by telling each of them exactly what to do. For example: Jaxon you need to pick up the cars and the blocks. Calli, you need to pick up the stuffed animals and the legos. They can focus a bit better that way. Also, I won't allow them to bring something new out, unless they clean up their old mess.
And in regards to getting them stuff around the house, it requires a please, thank you, etc. And I don't cater, if it's something they can get for themselves, than I have them get it. But of course, you want to teach that it's nice to do nice things for others too... so I will get them their "blankies, animals, etc. if they ask nicely and I'm not busy cooking or doing something else."
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