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if you've tried, and he won't respond, hten screw him. he should be the one making the effort to see his kids.
with my daughters biological father, i tried and tried and tried to accomodate him. finally i quit trying and he actually said to me 'you have to call me when you want me to see her'.
you can't force someone to see their kid, and if the father isn't going to try, then why bother?
your kids are also going to know that you have raised them and been there from them, no matter what he does.

if you've tried, and he won't respond, hten screw him. he should be the one making the effort to see his kids.
with my daughters biological father, i tried and tried and tried to accomodate him. finally i quit trying and he actually said to me 'you have to call me when you want me to see her'.
you can't force someone to see their kid, and if the father isn't going to try, then why bother?
your kids are also going to know that you have raised them and been there from them, no matter what he does.

this can be so hard on kids, my ex was like this too, my two oldest kids did have a hard time with it, the one thing I recomend is to document everything you do to get ahold of him the letters you send copy them, phone calls write them down and what time and the phone # Yyou called. notto prove to your kids that you tried, butto be prepared, my ex got mad at me. he took me to court to say I was denying him visitation, the judge took his side, needless to say I was mad , but he visits were short lived, they did not last, I just raised my kids the best I could, sometimes with child support and sometimes without, just made sure they had security love and a stable enviroment, never bad mouthed their dad, he made himself look bad. they are both older now and on their own, they do nothave anythingto do with him, their choice, he has tried to call them and get their adresses, they just do not respond, they do not hate him they just do not need him, he still blames me for this. but that is okay I am a big girl and my shouldrs can handle it, I just always told my kids that their dad loved them the only way he knoew how, and as they got older they understood more, yes it was hard for them, but they are okay, just be the best you can, do not allow them to use the excuse that dad is not there for me so I am not going to folow the rules, it will be okay, the child support was great when it came in, but I never ciunted on it, so I just budgeted without it and if it came in then that was extra money, if not then it was okay, good luck, and know you are going to be okay and so are your kids,

Hi there, you may want to join the single parenting forum on here too. There are lots of folks that can relate.

I don't have any good advice but maybe you should count your blessing. There are a lot of people who want to move away and are not allowed because the other parent doesn't want them to. If dad was heavily involved you may not have been allowed to move or I have even heard of custody changes due to the moves.

Don't blame yourself - you've done what is best and this is his mistake!