Parenting Toddlers (1-3) Support Group

I HAVE THE SAME PROB. I HAVE TO TAKE THE TOYS FROM HIS ROOM AND TELL HIM HE DONT HAVE TO SLEEP, BUT HE MUST REST. I GO BACK AND BACK IN ,PUTTING HIM BACK IN BED. ALSO IF HE DONT NAP OR LISTEN I SAY "OK THERE IS GOING TO BE A CONS. THEN IF HE DOES IT AGAIN I SAY " OK YOU DIDNT LISTEN YOUR CONS. IS YOUR GOING TO BED EARLY" SO HE GOES TO BE 1 HOUR EARLY.

AS FOR THE SPITING!!!! I HAD THIS PROBLEM BUT IT STARTED WITH A LADY SAYING HI TO HIM IN THE STORE THE "SPLAT" IN HER FACE.

SOMEONE TOLD ME HOT SACUE. NOT MUCH AT ALL I STRESS. ENOUGH TO SEE THE RED ON YOUR FINGER TIP. I TRIED IT AND OH MY IT WORKED. OF COURSE GIVE HIM WATER AFTER 30SEC AT FIRST. THEN LONGER AS HE GETS OLDER.

NOW WHEN HE SPITS I SAY 'OK HOT SAUCE " THAT IS YUCKY AND HOT SAUCE IS YUCKY. HE HASNT DONE IT AGAIN.

I DIDNT WANT TO DO THIS AT FIRST , BUT NOTHING WORKED AND I DIDNT WANT TO SPANK HIM. SO NOW I KEEP A SMALL BOTTLE IN MY PURSE. HE KNOWS I PUT IT IN THERE " MY SON HAS MORE PROBLEMS OUT SIDE THE HOME"

We've been having a rough phase with naps too. Mainly because we just got rid of the pacifier. Sometimes laying down with him helps. Of course you might fall asleep too. LOL! We really just try to keep him in his room quiet even if he's playing for at least an hour. Would your son lay in bed and look at books? My niece (5) still does that for a period of time most afternoons.

I shouldn't have laughed when I read that he spits at you when you tell him to go to sleep. It's late. I pictured myself doing that to someone when they tell me to do something I don't want to do.

I love kids, I do.

We went through that stage with my oldest...but by the time she was two / three, we had her in a preschool and they had a very set naptime schedule. Amazingly, all the kids listened and stayed on their mats even if they didn't fall asleep. However, there were times on the weekends when she would refuse a nap (no spitting..) I would never peek in her room when I heard her playing on the monitor. I figured she would fall asleep on her own...and she usually did...sometimes late to where she'd end up being awake a bit later at night.
Perhaps if you can, the hour before his nap time, have him go for a walk, or go to the park and get him exhausted so that he falls asleep out of pure tiredness.

Good luck!

my son did they same thing so i cut out the naps and moved up bed time some and it worked great. good luck

On days he doesn't nap, put him to bed EARLY. THat way, you can catch up a bit of the sleep so the next day he's not super tired and acting out more. I think he's starting to get to the time frame where he'll phase out the actual nap. Not that he can't have rest time or something but yeah, remove all toys etc from his room. Also try to make sure htere is plenty of physical activity prior to bedtimes so that he is actually tired. I have found when my daughter was phasing out naps that she'd fall asleep about 4pm which is way too late for a nap. So she'd go down for the night at 6pm and sleep until 7 or 8am. 13-14 hrs whereas if she took a nap, she'd be getting 13 hrs. KIinda helps them keep an even keel even though they are going through a transition. Yeah it sucks, it's rough because one day they do another they don't but keep up with the quiet time in his room at the very least. Good luck.

My oldest will be 4 next month and she stopped napping not long after she turned 3. The only time she naps now is when she is sick. Some children just stop needing a nap sooner then others. But they still need to rest. The more you fight with him the worse he will behave. Nap time in my home is more like a quiet time. If he wants to just play in his room let him. If he wants to use this time to read a book let him. Just make it clear that during this time he is to stay in his room or somewhere else in the house and relax. To make sure he still gets the rest he needs Pull his bedtime an hour earlier.