Parenting Toddlers (1-3) Support Group

I would just plain and simple ask the mother what she wants you to do!

I'm afraid that asking her would sound weird. Please tell me what you would want your sitter to do.

LOL I never encountered this one before. However, I never leave the door open--it's my place of silence (so sad I know)--when the girls are home.

I would just have you close the door and tell her to wait right outside while you go to the bathroom. However, I don't see a problem in leaving the child unattended while you use the bathroom. Granted, I know first hand how much they can get in to when left alone, but it's a part of life for everyone. We all pee.

Let us know how it goes.

If it were me and I knew what you left the door open as a mother I would feel very uncomfortable with that, I would have the girl sit and watch a show or play while you go to the restroom, depending on the age she shoudl understand you will be right back, or make it a game, play hide and seek and run to the restroom. Worst place her in the high chair for a second with some cheerios, something she can't choke on, if it becomes a problem let hte mom know and ask her for her advise too.

just to be clear. the girl is only two-years old and supposedly very active. i have asked this question in other places and i'm getting varied answers. some say i should bring her in with me and act casual, others say for me to close the door.

if i was to bring her in with me or at least leave the door open, what should i do and how should i act so it is as not awkward as possible?

what would you have your sitter do if knew your child would probably get into trouble or hurt herself in your sitter was using the bathroom (1 or 2) with the door closed?

I would definitely not want the sitter to take my child in or leave the door open. I would ask the sitter to put her in the bed or have her play in the room with her favorite toy until he gets back.

As a mother and grandmother I would suggest for you to use the bathroom by yourself. I mainly say this for your protection. Exposing yourself to a young child could be misconstrude. Try to put the child in the highchair with a book or a snack while you go to the restroom.

I completely understand why it might not be good for her to be near me when i'm in the bathroom, but when i weigh the repercussions it is a hard decision.

if she accompanies me to bathroom likely nothing will happen because it would be a casual thing just like what would happen if she had a father or brother or cousin. the worst that could happen is that she makes particular note of it, tells her mother, and it turns into a big thing.

if leave her alone (especially if i am in there for more than a minute) there is a good chance she will not do what i told her (as she is active) and she may hurt herself. if she does, i would be responsible (neglect).

it is a real problem.

I'm confused here....do the mothers who are replying do these things with their kids? Personally, if I go to the bathroom I let them continue whatever they are doing--they don't need to be put in the highchair, their room or anything else.

Why is it necessary to put your kids in a safe place while you pee? Sorry, I don't mean to sound patronizing, but I just don't get why you feel the need to watch them every second.

Ask the Mom what she does & what she would prefer you do.

In the time it took me to pee, my oldest, not yet 2, climbed a built-in-to-the-ceiling bookshelf, took a bottle of Iron Supplements off the top shelf, opened the child-proof cap & ate several. (Hello ER.) She sat in the tub after that.