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Wow that is a tough one. Everyone handles infertility differently. I am sorry your friend isn't able to be there for you, especially as you have always been there for her and her child. My suggestion would be to give it some time. She may come around. You could try talking to her but if she is already avoiding you that might be difficult. Best of luck to you and congrats again on your little bundle of joy!!

Ouch!! My sister-in-law, who is one of my best friends, actually forgot to tell my brother that I had the baby, didn't tell her daughter either and she was born on her birthday. They found out three days later. She wanted another baby and I am thinking that might be what is behind it but not sure. It has kind of taken away from our friendship. I'm sorry you have to deal with this too, its so nice to share your exciting news with your best buddies.

I would let her know that you of all people understand her longing for a baby. But that you hope that she can learn to love your baby as much as you love hers and how important your friendship is to you.

Mail her a cute friendship card - something that says something about "thinking about you" or "you're such a good friend" ya know along those lines. Then let it go - she will come to you when and if she is ready - I know, as you do, from 1st hand experience how hard it is to see others have babies when you want one so badly (or in her case a 2nd one) - everyone handles this differently - she is handling this differently than you did when she was preg. but that does not mean that she is wrong for the way she is dealing with it - she has her owen coping methods - anyway . . .

She may or may not come back to you - if you don't hear from her then you know the friendship was not all you had viewed it to be - also remember that as we get older, our needs or likes/dislikes change across the board and for whatever reason, sometimes we drift apart and that's OK

A childhood friend of mine dropped by my house today and we had hit a dry spell for a while - I think mainly because, she was getting pregnant at the drop of a hat and we couldn't - now that we are about to adopt (two days from now by the way) it seems that our friendship has found new fuel and it feels MARVELOUS! Point of that little tid bit being that you may find yourself in a dryspell with your friend but in a few months or maybe even years (hopefully not) you may find that the two of you rekindle your relationship out of the blue.

But the long and short of it - I would mail her a sweet card right away and then be sure to remember her b-day - little things like that just to keep the lines of communication open and let her do the rest.

I have learned that no matter how long you have been friends with someone and how good you have been for them, it doesn;t mean they will be that for you, and when bad things or good things happen friendships will change, i learned that when my brother died and my friends disappeared and even when i got pregnant my friends that had stayed around after my brother died, they acted different,

My advice, remember the good times you have had and love and cherish them, but do not dwell on the fact that she is not around, it will eat you alive and maybe just give it some time and maybe she will come back or not but love the ones your with and enjoy your child my thoughts are with you take care