Parenting Big Kids (5-8) Support Group

there was a recent discussion in parenting toddlers about spanking that had at least 4o replies if you want to check it out:)

the last reply was 4/23 I think

boy there is a lot of different opinions on this, I think a firm swat on their bottoms is fine, not in anger though, I will give my kids a warning and then just swat them firmly on the bottom once, get's their attention and works, I do not agree with just flat out hitting a kid, there is a diffrence between a swat and beating, your child is not going to grow up and hate you, and have anger issues if it is done in away that is not angry or violent, my parents were the best ones I could have asked for and they spanked my sisters and I, I did not grow up hating them or being aggressive towrds my children,

i spank my kids, i was spanked growing up. i have nothing against spanking but there is a fine line between abuse and discipline.

There is a time and place for it, IMO and it must be controlled and come along with a warning first as consequences for certain actions. I do not like it but find it necessary sometimes.

i dont like to spank, but occasionally i have to. i believe that first you talk and if that doesnt work then spank, unless it is something that hurts them or another, then a spanking is in order. but like others said, not in anger. i never ever ever spank if i am upset, i wait until i calm down.

I believe in spanking and thought I was the only one left. Which is why I started this discussion. So many people's answers are time-outs and taking things away but every so often it calls for more. couple open handed swats on the butt never hurt anyone. Well it may have hurt but... :)

There is only so many times you can time out & take toys/privliges(sp?) away, sometimes a spanking is all that works. I do agree that there is a fine line between spanking & beating.
I don't like to do it but on times where nothing else works....

You know the posts about spanking here are sooooo much different than on other communities....I too have been known to spank but only for dier cirrcumstances...running with knives, into the street, playing with the oven.....I definatly believe that there are some things that need to be gotten the first time and rare and swift swat sends that message.

I never would. I just can't resolve my everyday message to them not to solve problems by hitting, with spanking. I do reserve a certain tone of voice which seems to send a chill up their spine. Once years ago I did swat my son, and I still can see his look of hurt betrayal.