Parenting Teenagers (12-18) Support Group

I would say let it go. When we had kids it wasn't for gifts or recognition right? I say let it go. She's 14 and young. Don't make her feel like crap for it. What good would it do? none. It would only cause a rift htat's likely already there due to her age. I'll say it for her: Happy Mother's day! :)

I also say let it go. She is 14, and has a lot on her mind.. she is a teenager, and as a teenager I am sure she can be pretty selfish, as a lot of them are. When she gets older she will get better at remembering, especially when she has kids of her own.

Pick your battles, and dont let something little like this come between you.

I agree with pick your battles... I know its hard because you just want alittle recognition but in the long run not being upset about it will show her you are stronger than she is. And this coming from someone who just kicked her 17 year old daughter out of the house. I dont expect to get a call from my child. Id love to ofcourse but i dont see it happening.

I agree...no use making it worse.

I try to hint around the week before because I know my son will forget and then when he realizes that he forgot he feels badly.

Although this is her Dad's weekend (he and I have 50/50 joint custody) my almost 14 year old insisted on spending some time with me. She had friends who wanted her to go here and there but she wanted to spend time with Mom and for that I am grateful. She has to rely on us to get her to the store so she made me a hand-made card (my favorite kind) and pick me some of my favorite flowers- lilacs. I kissed her and told her how happy I am to be her Mom. We had a good day. Go give your daughter a hug and share what it was like and how happy you felt the day that she was born- it will be the gift that keeps on giving. When I think back to my childhood, the things that I remember most was any of the time that I was able to spend with my Mom, not the gifts. Go make a memory- take a walk with her, sit down and give yourselves manicures and pedicures, watch a chick-flic together, you'll be happy that you did. Don't tune her out, tune into her as the teen years are difficult times- you may be surprised and she will open up to you about what is going on in her life. Good luck, xoxoLyn

I'm 95% sure my husband picked out the card & flowers that I got today, but my son has been super pleasant today, and that is gift enough for me!!! I say, if she's nice today....that's better than a card ANY TIME!!!
(he also got out of bed at 8:30 this morning and made my coffee!!)

Well, I don't completely agree with everyone. It was bad enough she missed your birthday, (though she could forget the date) but we can expect that of that age group, but Mothers Day is advertised, would she not have noticed this?
I think, as someone mentioned, if they are nice to you for the day, that is the best you can expect.
I personally would have to mention it though, but not make a big issue of it, she may well have her reasons.

I disagree with most of the posts! I think you should let her know how bad it made you feel and how would she like you to forget HER birthday! 14 is NO EXCUSE FOR BEING MEAN!!!! Last year my daughter goofed BIG TIME for Mothers day being mean and rude. I let her see how miserable it was and yes gave her a little sh** about it. check my journal for the kind of day i had this year. Start as you mean to go on....if she thinks she can get away w/it you're only asking for problems later. I did and my 25yr old son is horrible and we don't speak. My d on the other hand have a very nice relationship. She's 12 Happy Belated Mother's Day!

I had the sam problem, I have 5 kids and one sent me a text message (he's 23) and my other 2 boys 17 & 13 didn't say it at all. My 8 year old & 13 year old daughters remembered later in the day! I have learned you just take it with a grain of salt and let it go. There is SO much other stuff to stress over! Happy Mothers day to you!!

Well, my 12 year old came downstairs with a card (that yes, my husband picked up for them), gave me the card and a hug and a 'Happy Mother's Day", my 14 yo walked right past me and upstairs into the shower. Whatever. My gift that he was reasonably pleasant throughout the day, we had a nice, uneventful dinner, and the night before he (totally on his own) vacuumed the entire basement, sofa's and all!!! That's a gift enough for me. My kids usually aren't aware of the date, and don't put 2&2 together that it's even a holiday/birthday. That's ok with me, they'll get it one day, and right now I thank heaven for the little things, cuz there are so many BIG things to worry about.