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OMG!! I am so ticked, and too bad if this offends people, but I'm very upset right now . My niece's dumb friend was 15 when she got pg and is now 16, due in Sept. My niece has informed us that currently there are 8 pregnant girls in the High School and 3 in the Junior High!!!!!!!!
Does no one know how to use a fucking condom?? I go to my niece's MySpace3 page to send emails and see her pics and I went to some of her friends pages and looked at some of the messages among a couple of the PG girls. They post about how they can't wait to have their showers so they will get everything they need and how they can't wait to go out to parties when they aren't pg anymore. HELLLLLOOOOOOOOO You are going to be a parent!! You'll be up all night with a screaming newborn who needs to be fed, burped, diapered, washed, rocked, repeat about 10 times a friggin day. These girls think that it's going to be so easy to raise a baby and yet most of them have never even had to work. God forbid you make a nasty comment about how are you going to support the child. I guess when you are that young and feel as if you are invinsible you think that everything is a bed of roses. If I even get one of these teens telling me that I'm an old hag for thinking they can't make it at 15 or 16, sorry honey, you are wrong. What kind of job are you going to be able to get that will pay the bills for your rent, bus fare, health insurance, clothes, diapers, medicine, formula, etc...? Oh wait, I guess that's what your parents are for, that or you can always go on welfare. It just burns my butt here that in the end the taxpayers end up taking up a lot of the burden, along with these childrens families since the new mothers are too young and naive about what it is like to have to take care of a person. Posted on 05/04/08, 01:05 am |
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I don't think I could have said it any better. Bravo!!! 
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I agree it is pretty unreal when these little girls think that because they can make and pop out kids they are grown but yet they don't have to be responsible! I seen my sister do it at 17. My parents were beyond burdened with not only taking care of their last 2 children living at home but a baby too. What makes matters worse is that with the help of our mother, my sister successfully hid her pregnancy until a month before she had the kid!!!! It's funny because I think back to my teenage years and I know that this would not have flown with my folks had it been me, but it wouldn't have been me because I was responsible. At the same time my teenage sister decided she was grown enough to have a kid was the same time I too was expecting my first child, which caused all kinds of crap within the family although I was married, working, living on my own and going to college full time. I look back at all of what my parents sacrificed for my sister (who doesn't appreciate ANYTHING) and it makes me SICK!!!!! Well these kids both hers and mone are 13 now and it is only a matter of time that my neice will be walking around with a baby on her hip too, she is a spitting image of her mother!
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I was a teenager when I got pregnant, but I was married and had a working husband plus I was going to school. We had health insurance,stable income, our own place, ect ect ect.....
But most of these girl and their boyfriends don't have any of this. They want to fit in and have "adult" relations but aren't responsable enough to handle the consequences. Right now at my old high school there are like 6 girls pregnant. It is crazy and a couple of them it is their 2nd child!!! What erks me more is one of them is my husbands youngest brother!!! He's girlfriend moved out of her parents house when she was 18 because they gave her too many "rules" (decent curfew, no phone after 10 on a school night, and do chores before you go out) They weren't by no means horrible rules, but she didn't like them and moved in with her friend (who lived with her mom) She is a senior in high school! We told his little brother not to be stupid and dumb and practice safe sex. Then he pops off and says he doesn't like the way condoms feel!!! We were floored by that comment!! I suggested that since this girl thinks she knows everything since she turned 18, that she go get on birth control because neither one of them are fit to be parents. She went and got on birth control through the health department but got off of them within a month because she gained 5 pounds!! But now because of that they are having a little girl and neither one of them have a job!!! AAGGHH!! It is just too freaking crazy!
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I swa a girl (who looked about 12) who was 7-9 months pregnant at the bus stop a few weeks ago and she was SMOKING! For me (someone that has been struggling to get pregnant for the better part of 10 years) I wanted to pull the car over and smack some sense into that teen. Urg. What the hell is happening with kids these days that they are having sex at 12 years old!!
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I think everyone is a little naive about it the first time around. But then again, most of us have finished high school and maybe even college.
Here is a link (I keep giving these links. What's wrong with me) of an interview on PBS with a neuropsychologist (or director of such) talking about the differences in the frontal lobe of the brains in adults and teenagers (geez. I really AM a geek.) It is fascinating. And a good argument to pose to those teens that insist that they can be good, providing mothers with stellar decision-making skills.. http://www.pbs.org/wgbh/pages/fron... And I am sure it is possible. In fact, I actually do know one that is doing an excellent job with her son. But just because it is possible does not mean that it is generally doable and certainly isn't EASY. As a Libertarian in mindset, the welfare system for things like this make me extremely upset. It's unfair. Why should I pay taxes for folks that have screwed up? (Literally) It's just like the whole ongoing mortgage crisis of late. How do you NOT read the fine print? You didn't realize that you weren't going to be able to afford the payments a few years down the road? (Akin to: you didn't figure on using a condom, birth control, or ANY functional brain cell?) F*&king common sense. COMMON sense. Meaning....it should be available in bundles...not just for the scholars out there. And those who didn't make a stupid decision have to take up the slack for those who didn't use their brain? I'm on a tirade now. I'm going to take some Sudafed for my cold and pretend I'm going to be able to sleep. Huzzah.
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I agree although i too got pregnant with my daughter when i was 17. my bf and i had been together for 3 yrs prior and yes we did use a condom and it busted. but i had a job and worked til the day before i had my daughter, got married and hes in the military so we were well taken care of. but i know exactly how u feel about stupid teens who dont know what theyre doing, but rest assured some of us arent all "stupid teens" and some of us take care of our responsibilities! peace.
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Last year this time I went to my little brother's graduation. He went to a different school than I did and I always heard that this school produced a lot of teen pregnancy. At his graduatiion he said that 73% of the girls in his class had kids or are pregnet!!! This is a small town school with only about 80 kids per class!!!!! About 50% of the boys in the class had kids (or thought they did) Like that wasn't discusting enough. I looked at the pamphlet and only about 10 of the girls were going on to college and almost every boy was. Because the girls were all saying home with their kids. My brother told me one girl in his class was pregnet with her 3rd kid!!!!! And she was the youngest in the class...she was 17 at the time!!! WHERE ARE THESE KIDS PARENTS????? Thanks for posting, wanted to vent about that for a year now!!!!
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I totally agree my fiance's ex was 16 when she got pregnant and 17 when she gave birth (she told him she was on the pill and he thought he could believe her)... she got pregnant again at 18 and will be giving birth soon at 19 (not his)...
She thinks she knows everything about being a parent. She has refused to take court ordered parenting classes stating shes a good mom she dont need them and yet he has been in the hospital around 10 times (that we know of) in his short life, hes not even 2. Her mom just got a 2nd job to take care of her daughter. Bought her a car, pays her rent and phone... He has a diaper rash and diarrhea every other week.. hes petrified of water (hes getting better now that we make sure we do something with water when we have him).. he refuses anything healthy.. My question is if there really is a God why does he allow these type of things to happen? If someone isnt old enough to take care of themselves or cant take care of the first child they had why are they blessed a second time? These kind of things are even harder for someone who is ttc without success. I always wonder what I did wrong or whats so special about them...
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I agree totally, and unfortunately that is why so many grandparents, like myself are raising grandchildren. Mine is a different circumstance tho, my daughter is 37 and quite ill, but she stupidly got pregnant at 16 and had her first child. I was only 36 and a grandma, can u imagine.
SHe married the buy and of course they were both too young and it didnt work out and I wound up taking her back home with a 1-1/2 year old and taking care of the baby. She was a baby herself, wasn't really read y to be a mother. These girls don't have a clue!!!!!!!
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Funny about this post because I am 22 and have a 2 1/2 year old. I have been married for 4+ years and am a SAHM. I still feel like a child. I know I've taken care of my son well. Emotionally, Physically, Spiritually... but there are some days that I feel totally like a child raising a child. I am just now going to school after most of my friends have graduated. I guess hindsight is just something to take with grace.
I live in SoCal and it's amazing the rude kids who think they're being cool. Then you see young adults acting stupid too- gangs drugs and sex you know... ugh, very frustrating. The thing for me is they don't even care if a kid is with you they will still drop f-bombs like they don't see them. What happened to manners? I'd stay something but I don't want to be shot!
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