What is Adoption
Adoption is the legal act of permanently placing a child with a parent or parents other than the birth parents. Adoption results in the severing of the parental responsibilities an...
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We adopted our son 6 years ago (he was 2 1/2). Life has been challenging to say the least but he now seems to be doing well and we love him more than anything. Last week my brother and sister-in-law had their first child - a beautiful baby boy. I am so pleased for them but it has shocked me how emotional I feel and how raw my own experiences seem, even though I thought I had done my "grieving", long ago, for the birth children I could never have. I am frustrated that I feel like this and it seems really selfish. I can't tell anyone around me because they're are all so happy (naturally). Part of me also, rather childishly feels that someone should have thought about how I might be feeling!!
By the way, I am new to DS. Thanks for the chance to just say how I feel. I am in Wales, UK. Posted on 09/23/08, 07:09 am |
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I don't think you're being selfish at all. What you're feeling is probably more the norm for adoptive moms who couldn't conceive. I remember feeling the same way when all my friends would be pregnant and I never was. I yearned to feel what they were feeling, but it had nothing at all to do with my kids whom I love dearly and were as much a part of me as any birth children. It was just that I wanted that experience. Eventually, I got over it and now looking back I wouldn't change a thing because everything is meant to be the way it turned out. 
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Thank you for your reply wachit. I did used to feel really bad when friends were pregnant but lately seemed to deal with it better. I think this has hit me harder because it's so close.
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