Accidents Support Group

Hi AmyLynn,
I can really relate to your post- I too was in a severe car accident, 11 months ago today. And it also left me with the same injuries as you have suffered, and have struggled with my own emotions, and emotions (or lack there of) of loved ones, that really dont understand what is going on inside. I have been experiencing everything you have voiced. To me, I feel they cant understand, fully anyway, what a battle/struggle it is for us, and will continue to be because they have not experienced it. They could try to appreciate where we are coming from, but it isnt the same. I actually just came across this site last night, in hopes of finding people that i might be able to vent to, or express myself to, that have been through something similar, because as much as our loved ones are our support systems (and i also have a very lovely fiance, by my side) Sometimes it is nice to touch base with someone who has gone through the same experience, or similar. With that said, I've found you, and if you need anything, you know where to find me, and I hope I can help. take care, and know that you arent alone in your feelings right now.

I have a wonderful husband and friends who have been very helpful and try to understand what i am going through but I feel that unless something similar has happened to you you can't really understand what someone else feels. My parents think I have been milking my injuries for long enough now and i should just get off of my lazy butt and get better. In their eyes I should be better by now. I struggle with my feelings every day and question myself all of the time as to whether I could return to work and if I have done everything I could have to have gotten better. i am always doubting myself.

isreichard,
i do the same too. i am constantly doubting myself, or my progress. wondering if it is "normal" that i am at where i am at..and should i be better? should i not be feeling this much pain? where should i be? dont allow others to dictate to you where you should be. only you know. (and i need to practice what i preach ;) everything has to be in transition.. I am 24 years old. and i feel incredibly useless right now, and ive come a long way. yet the feeling has not subsisded because i was a very independant person before hand, and I did things for others. I did not rely on people. Ive had to learn to swallow my pride, and be taken care of for awhile. which was incredibly difficult. So I understand where you are coming from.

Lakell,

Lakell,
I know what you mean about feeling useless. I often watch my kids cleaning the house and feel horrible. I should help them, but then my leg hurts and swells and in reality they can do it better and faster. I was a nurses aide before the accident. I worked in the health care field for 11 years and loved taking care of people. I never intended to be a nurses aide, but really needed a job applied and the rest is history. It was like I was born to it. My Dad told my sister the other day that my accident was my fault because I should have bought my lawn mower when he told me too. I was devastated when she told me this. He blamed me for something someone else did to me. This site has really helped me a lot. I have been able to find people who have suffered like me and understand how I feel. It means a lot to me to know I am not alone.