Abstinence & Celibacy Support Group

Just wanted to comment-- I joined the Abstinence group not because of a religious belief or ethical commitment, but more of a personal preference or gut feeling. I've been in a "sex is icky" phase for quite a while, and do not have much desire to be persuaded out of it.

On the other hand, last night a friend and I discussed the subject for hours over dinner, and it may be something of an ethical belief for me after all. My friend and I have strong monogamous leanings, and are thoroughly bewildered and a little disgusted by the "hook-up" culture. We have mutual friends who identify as "polyamorous" or in "open relationships," and we respect their choices, but we don't genuinely understand their preferences and their reasoning. I don't want to be judgmental towards people who are different from me, who express love in many different ways (including sexual ways) and who can handle complicated relationships I don't even understand and wouldn't dare try to manage. But I also don't want to be judgmental towards myself and suppress my own beautiful opinions about monogamous love and celibate living.

Hi, there FireSage welcome to the site and the group. I’m let you know some information on me why I am abstinent and celibate. I am young only 19 years old. But I like being celibate it’s rewarding for me to abstain from anything sexual. I am serious about my commitment about this and it’s not an issue for me any shape or form. But maybe with for certain guys whenever I will decide to start dating. Some won’t believe me as I met them or others will think it’s a hoax. Looks having nothing to do with your personal goals in life that’s what some guys think when he meets me... I am determined to follow through it. I have been celibate/ abstinent for 19 years of my life and I am fine with that. I don’t like the idea of anything causal involving sex. I’m not religious but I made this personal choice on my own. Because I want to get know someone in other levels... Like mental, social, friendship, non-sexual, social, intellectual, I think that they are other ways to get to know someone instead of sex. If the time comes in life and I get into a serious relationship that person will have to respect all of that about me or leave. I’m not saying I will wait until marriage but I will wait for as long as I need too. I’m into a committed, monogamous relationship that is healthy and has the same morals and values as me. Nothing less of that.