Sexual abstinence is the practice of voluntarily refraining from some or all aspects of sexual activity. Common reasons to deliberately abstain from the physical expression of sexu...
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ok so i was friends with this guy, he asked if i was a vergin i said yes and im waiting till im married. he didnt understand why. but we talked alot and had alot in common. we started going out. we went out for a week and he broke up with me for very stupid reasons he kept changing his mind to why he broke up with me. i no its cuz he wanted to go get sex. then he said he made a mistake and he wants me bac so i took him bac. he kept pressuring me about sex this is sum stuff he said..."i dnt want to make you do anything your not ready for" "its ok i understand and support you" "its hard to go from three time a day to none" "waiting till we are married is a hell of a long time to wait" he had told me that he loves me and that he thinks im the one. then out of the blue, again, he dumps me! i like him so much! idk why because he hurt me so much twice! he was the first guy to hurt me. he says he still likes me and im afraid he is just playing me! i just dont no what to do! hes trying to get to me by texting my sister, asking her to go to the demo derbys with him, when that was something him and i were supposed to do together. and my sister just doesnt get it. he tells me that he had sex with his ex girlfriend that he still "loved" when we were dating the first time! he still trys to get to me! oh and the second time he broke up with me he said i was to nice of a girl! wtf! that hurt me so much! that is attacking my person! he kept coming up with so many different reasons and saying he didnt mean them. he still hasnt given me the real reason but i no its because i wouldnt give him sex! i dnt want to change the person i am! i like him though! how do i deal with this!? i dnt think ill ever find anyone!
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What I`m going to say is sad but true,your guy is a selfish jerk,forget him and move on,he doesn`t know what he wants and is just using you.I was exactly like him,telling woman anything to keep them within range so I could get what I wanted from each one without the other knowing,no intention to commit.
He has an excess of hormones and no heart.Been there done that,hurt some super ladies and hated myself later enough to change. 
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thank you that helped me! ugh this guy is rly messin me up he just told me tonight he still loves me and he got rid of his ex that was trying to break us up the first time! aaah1 idk what to do
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We're proud of you. Good thing you didn't change for a guy that didn't like you anyways. I just saw this commercial about Cervical Cancer shots that parents are asking daughters to get. Yikes. Did you know the guy is just as responsible for the HPV virus that causes the cervical cancer? The guy is usually the carrier. He swabs some of the virus on his thingy when he says he was with his ex girlfriend then like a bee, comes trying to pollinate you with HPV. Being abstinent at least saves you the worry of cervical cancer from the HPV bug. Proud of ya.
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I have had the same problem ..i normally dont get my hopes up with people let alone like someone because i know everyone is like scared of a virgin but thats the first thing i tell some because im not ashamed to be one and i want them to know. anyway i met this guy and we had so much fun together. by the way (he had sex with 32 ppl..yea gross and normally i would never like someone like that but for some reason i did) but we both fell for eachother then one day he texted me and said he is getting back with his ex gf which i knew he never had one...then 2 weeks later he told me he missed me and made a mistake and was just scared at the fact i was a virgin. so it was on and off for about 4 months and he would always bring the virgin thing up or that i was young when he is only 2 years older then me. then i just got so tired of it and realized i could do better someone that is worth it so then i just decided to move on. i just always tell myself there is someone better out there for me i just havent found him yet. until then ill just go out and have fun. hope this helps.
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He does like you, but he likes sex more. He doesn't think he can go without it, which, if he were to be with you, leaves him 2 options: 1) Cheat on you or 2) Pressure you into going against your own values. Either one of these would hurt you, and he doesn't want to look like a dick. He is following his hormones instead of his heart, which tells you that he isn't in a place to give you what you want or need. Sex is too important to him for him to be with you, but he is attracted to you. So for you, the question is, would you rather keep him or your self-respect?
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I agree with ellen80. You would rather want to keep your self-respect in the long run. I know it is hard but it is better for you, your self-esteem, and your heart in the long run if you just find guys better than him to date in the long run. I am here to talk if you want. I had sort of the same thing happen to one of my close friends. You are not alone and you are a very worthy person!
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dont compromise ur choice, he's running a game on u. He's playing u,he's a jerk! If he really cared he wouldnt have dumbed u the 1st time then again a 2nd! that messed up. A real man for you will be able to respect ur decision and not pressure u into doing something u dont want to. Many guys like challenges, girls who say they waiting until their married. Its a game to him he just wants ur virginity be careful dont give in!
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He claims he has sex three times a day, without even a stable partner? Then you must conclude that he spends a lot of his time not just having sex, but finding and negotiating sex. He spends a lot of time doing things you would never dream of doing, with people you would probably never want to be friends with. You might "like him" on a date but you wouldn't like him if you could see what he spends most of the day doing.
After a WEEK of dating you, while still having sex with his OTHER GIRLFRIEND, he should not be telling you that he "loves" you and you are "the one" for him. The fact that he broke up with you, immediately after claiming that he loves you, just proves the point. When he says he loves you, he is either (a) deliberately lying, or (b) infatuated and unable to see beyond the moment; when tomorrow comes, he'll be infatuated with someone else. You say you want to wait for marriage. For this guy, there's no point even waiting one week, because he ran away before the week was over.
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