Abstinence & Celibacy Support Group

Guy-

I think it is very admirable that you have stuck to your high standards for yourself even thought I am sure it has been hard at times. I know it may seem like you are alone but trust me when I say you are not! My advice to you is find a male friend or mentor who can be an accountability partner... who has the same high standards for their life that you do. If you go to a church you can easily talk to one of the men in leadership there if you like and they can match you up with a man in the church who can help support you and give you a support system. Stay strong Guy!

i personally think it is better with a no sex till marriage life. you have the whole rest of you life to do it. im a virgin too and i kno how you feel b/c i have like 3 virgin friends lol. just pray about it. and keep tellin yourelf your gonna find someone soon enough to have sex wit.

just think of it this way(if your a believer)
work on yourself so that you can be all you can be whenever you get married and youll be a stronger person in the end.

Avoid sexually charged materials. If you must, masturbate. I do not feel jealous. Don't mention it to your friend if you think he won't understand. Why subject yourself to that kind of ridicule?

it does make me feel kinda weird and proud of myself. my sister received a "purity ring" and yet she is on birth control. i recieved no ring, because my parents were making to much of a big deal out of it, and that made me feel weird. its not a big deal to me cuz thats just how i am. at least theres someone else out there that has high standards for themselves and not just me!!

You may not realize it now, but girls really really really like that in a guy

It shows that you're not like every other guy out there that just dates a girl to get somewhere, and thats a really good quality.

I know what you're feeling, by the way. I have no friends cuz of this. I had a best friend, but she did too much sexual stuff...I decided that I either do it or I drop her as a friend. And I dropped my only friend.

Its hard, I know. But you'll find someone, believe me =]

Hi Guy1,

1. I'm so glad you found this site too :-)

2. You're never alone: whether it's with depression or abstinence, there;s most likely four or five (hundred) people who feel just the same way you do. So that's always a nice thought :-)

3. What keeps me going to remain a virgin until marriage? Easy. Being true to myself and my values. I choose not to compromise.

4. No, it doesn't bother me that my peers are sleeping around as long as they don't pressure me to go against my beliefs and values.

Besides, I was taught never to just 'go with the flow', but to swim up stream, to be different, to be me!

5. And if anyone is supposed to be jealous, it should be those who've thrown away their virginity to that random person whose name they can't remember (or can't remember 5 years from now)...After all, once it's gone, that's it. There's no getting it back.


Melissa x