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My partner and I have been together 2 years. A bit over a yr into the relationship he confessed he did look at porn (he had told me he didn't with emphasis) & only told me after I guilted him into it with 'how he's the best boy in the world for not looking at it.ANYWAY!
He was right into it about a year before we met and I only noticed 1 poster of a chick in his room when we met which he soon took down on my request. I feel he's honouring me by not looking at it anymore - but I can't shake the feelings of betrayal or the fear that he could be lying to me again. If he was looking at it I would break up with him because I am passionate about purity and I am very sensitive to lust, I abhor it and am purely disgusted at porn (male/female alike) because of many reasons. I also believe in chastity .. Now... He has watched very suggestive movies & the like & share a lot of rude jokes with his mates BUt The main thing is that we are trying to abstain from sexual things only I'm worried he's doing this because he's looking at porn. I couldn't see it coming that he was looking at porn before when I wasn't around. I'm sure there's others who've experienced this & it's really torn them too if they're like me? I just found a vid on his facebook of a woman stripping practically naked.. only it's a joke short film and is meant to be funny at the end (kind of). Should I freak out like I kinda am? Posted on 01/25/08, 05:01 am |
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leave him for lying. i hate liars
personally, i don't date guys who have posters with hot chicks in their room because if 1. he wants me to look like that, then forget it and 2. who am i to tell him to take it down? I'd rather him take it down because he wants to, not because i want it down. i'm not trying to tell you you're a dumb ass or anything, but that is just what i am like... also, i wouldn't get too worried about things like this. its not worth it 
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I would freak out if my husband ever looked at porn. It is so addicting! Like durgs it will be a battle for a lifetime if he already is into it....if he is lieing it is probibly worse than what he is admitting to. I guess you really need to have a serious heart to heart and find out how in to it he really is. then go from there!! Good luck to you.
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End it. If thats the kind of guy he is do you really want to be with him? Ick.
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thanks for your replies. I typically dont date those kind of guys either -
I was fully unaware of this lurking porn desire ya know? OK SO Apparently someone else posted this video on his facebook of a girl stripping prac naked& I figured he'd know cos he checks facebook very often.. but he told me he didnt know it was there and gave me his password to delete it but now he's very pissed off at me it seems for asking him i guess! Fact is i've given him a second chance after I've known he's looked at porn but it's not easy and i don't know if i'll ever be the same again in trusting him in that way...
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well... not everyone who looks at porn is a perv who is going to be addicted; a lot of people look at it, esp guys, but i think its just a curiosity thing- he might just need time to grow up.... i wouldn't bust my butt to try and change him though because if you do that you're just adding another stressor into your life. no one wants that :)
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you've got a point about the change thing. I can't change anyone, only they can change if they want to.
My partner is now angry at me for bringing it up - can't win either way it seems!
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well... like i said... might just need time to grow up :)
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well he might not know what he wants if hes immature like lilu0509 said..but you know what you want..so dont settle..and if this person is not what you want and is not willing either to change when this is something that would be positive for the both of you...find someone else that has the qualities that are closer to what you want in a partner..cuz it only will get worst..and you guys are unequally yoked as of now...the temptation is gona be hard for him.and it sounds like his peers either dont know or arent supporting him in his walk of purity by the fact they are exposing him to sexual material such as that stripper video on his facebook and that alone is another problem..i pray that you do whats best for you..God bless
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