Sexual abstinence is the practice of voluntarily refraining from some or all aspects of sexual activity. Common reasons to deliberately abstain from the physical expression of sexu...
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Asexual VS Celibacy
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I've considered myself to be asexual (Because it has several definitions, I want to make it clear that I'm talking about being able to be in a healthy relationship with someone but not wanting or interested in having sexual intercourse. And not having male and female organs thus being able to impregnate myself...I CANNOT do that. lol) for some time. I'm wondering, however, if I'm confusing being asexual with celibacy. Somehow I feel a slight fear in myself when it comes to sex. For example, it's hard for me to imagine stripping down in front of someone and being intimate with them. Frankly, it almost freaks me out to think about it. I'm afraid it's going to hurt. I'm afraid of getting pregnant. But really, I would LIKE to remain a virgin until marriage, but I've always told myself to do it when it feels right. Well... when the heck will that be? :/
Help? :( Posted on 11/17/07, 02:11 am |
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I suggest seeking some counseling. Those kinds of issues/fears probably won't get better after you are married. I do recommend waiting (as I have) however, the fact that the idea is so full of trauma/pain/terror suggests that you may have some deeper issues to deal with. 
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I know where you are coming from..I have recently begun to think of myself as asexual as well. I am fearful of sex..the pain, the awkwardness, and getting pregnant..but a part of me DOES want to do it..but I guess my mind has stronger control over the urges of my body?? I think it is best to make sure you are truly comfortable and ready to have sex..and that time is different for everybody. Dont push yourself into something you are not ready for if you are still feeling all this worry and doubt. Maybe seek counseling or talk to a close friend, family member or even your doctor about some of the issues you are having w/ sex. Heh..I should follow my own advice! good luck to you ;o)
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I agree with both Alisha and Miss. Being fearful about it is not uncommon. If you were truly asexual, I feel that you would have no doubts or anxiety about not having sex with another person. Because you feel this way, though, I would think that you're actually trying to be celibate. Talk to a counselor, preferably someone who deals with sexual issues or relationships. If you feel strongly about not doing anything with anyone, that is fine, but try and make sure that you are doing it for the right reasons, not out of fear.
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