Abstinence & Celibacy Support Group

i dont agree,really.speaking from the point of view of having been highly promsicuous,my behavoir stemmed from deeper issues with myself and my self respect-a lot of kids arent lucky to be self secure,and look for confidence in other places,like drugs,drink and sex.i think society needs to look at how it supports its younger generations,and the representations it gives to them,and this habbit of writing people off because they have a different belief system to our own.wether they have sex before marrige,or they dont,or they drink or not at all,who gives anyone the right to pass a judgement that that person is wrong? .
secondly,i have never had sex without a condom,or protection.i know people who have,and have sufferd the consequences,i also have friends who have not even had their first kiss,some are saving themselves for marriage and some who have been/are sexually promiscuous and diverse.but what ever they do,they're still my friends,my peers and my people,they bring variety of opinions to my life,i cant imagine writing them off because they think differently to me,and none of them have written me off because ive decided to change,we debate,we learn from eachother,its fascinating.i think its awful to judge somebody as slutty,i think you should let them do whats right for them-they'l find their own paths in life eventually but one life choice doesnt suit everybody.i hate this judgemnentalness (and i know it works both ways).i dont uderstand why everyone cant get along.

youre defiently right. it's so argavating too. i mean if youre going to have sex, do it with someone you're commited to who loves you back just as much. not to solve some petty problem or to fit in.
i was making out with my boyfriend, and he asked me if i wanted to right then. and i was kinda annoyed that he asked, i mean i was glad that he ASKED, and didn't just try to, but i was only at his house for another half hour, and i kinda felt bad enough just being there, i don't even wanna think about if we did have sex. cause it's not just something to be so casual about. and that really bugs me how it's become that with everyone else..

it is sad. it's like there is no such thing as commitment or real *love* or understanding for anyone anymore. people are just out to get their physical quick fix and don't care about the long-term consequences. society has become so hedonistic that it's disgusting. there is no sense of right or wrong anymore...it's sad to have to admit that abuse is considered normal or even esteemed nowdays. i can't imagine how coming generations will have to live.

I think that dilluting your spiritual connection with your true love by leaving little bits of your self all over the place is a tragedy. I commend all of you for sticking to your guns.

Society has gotten worse. For some reason being a nice girl and choosing to not debase yourself is not seen as a requirement anymore. Its also less cool to be higher class in other ways-profanity for example. Morality is in the minority these days and its really too bad.

I think that is disgusting. I am now practicing abstinence after having lived a promiscuous life since high school. I lost my virginity when I was 14 to a 19 year old because it was my sisters boyfriends best friend and she was doing it so I thought I had to. It was the most uncomfortable thing ever, I didnt have sex again till years later. People should understand how important their bodies are. It really is your temple, it's all you have and it's a gift, honor & cherish it. Be the leader not the follower make it cool to have class instead of just be a piece of a*s!

Hum, I think it depends on what crowd you choose to hang out with. In college I've seen a few hints on stuff like that, but for the most part, it's easy to get on with your classes without hearing who slept with whom. If you find yourself hearing this gossip for pure gossiping, then perhaps you should join another type of crowd.

THANK YOU SO MUCH for making this topic
Its comforting to see how many people agree
I'm a 13 year old, just started high school
And already, almost all of my friends have either had sex or done everything up to it.
I, however, have done nothing but make out, ONCE.
I'm resisting.
Its so ridiculous how slutty everyone is here now
I mean, honestly, what the hell are they thinking?
No offense but its just so stupid
I've had to get myself out of it so many times-these guys here are just so ridiculous
They think sex is just so cool
Especially at the age of 13?
Wow.

Nice to see that someone still has some sense. I'm 19, and sometimes I feel I'm the only teen who doesn't want to make their body public property.

i agree. this society is so pitiful in so many ways

I totally agree with u. People like to gloss over things and pretend everything is "just fine" and "normal" but thats no the case. Excuse my language but our world is fucked up. and its not getting any better. No one has self respect, modesty, or anything like that. ANd so very few people are willing to do whats right. Everything is about sex, and who's doing who. A new reason for abstinence is just so u can assure u wont get infected with soemthing. Its wrong for those types of diseases to be so common, and ignored.