Abstinence & Celibacy Support Group

Well, obviously that probably the smartest descision, but there's nothing you can do about it now. The only thing you can really do is move on with your life and maybe try to follow in second-virginity? Like, try to make a new committment to yourself that you won't have sex again until you're married. It's just a suggestion.

thats just it t was with a mrried woman

yeah, but i mean don't have sex again until YOU are married. i DON'T mean that it's okay to have sex with a married woman. like i said before, if it's bugging you that you're not a virgin anymore, become a second-time virgin. that's really the only solution i can give you.

I'm not a virgin anymore but i've recently made a commitment to stay abstinent until i find the right one, and i know that even though i've had sex in the past it will still be just as special in the future. that doesnt mean go out and do it all the time but you know, maybe you had to go through this because you were doubting your abstinence so take losing your virginity as a learning experience! it's bad to sit and dwell over things.

Obviously you wouldn't be in this community if you didn't care about your purity. Talk to an older mentor or mature friend who can give you wisdom, pray with you and keep you accountable. If you are a christian know that God sent his son so we would be free from sin. It doesnt mean that we wont sin or that it has no consequences, but it does mean that sin doesnt have control over us. Don't wallow in guilt, rejoice in the grace God offers and move forward. All sins are the same in God's eyes, even if some seem worse to use here.

Shawn,
that you posted on this subject tells me that you are grieving the loss of your virginity. I can understand your grief lossing our virginity is a special one time event. The fact that you are sad over your loss also tells me that you are a decent person with strong values who has just made a single mistake. Baby, we all make them; but you have the choice to not make the same mistake if you don't want to. If waiting until you're married is important to you then wait. Maybe, the feelings you're experiencing now will help solidify your comittment to remaining abstinate. If nothing else you have something important to share with others, who are having similiar feelings. Take care and stay strong

No one is perfect.

dont beat yourself up hun.you cant take it back and you shouldnt regret anything youve done.every single day is a learning curve,mistakes happen but dwelling would be the worst possible thing you could do.you have a choice now about whats important to you and whats the best thing for you,but we cant tell you what you've done is right or wrong and you shouldnt let anyone tell you that,you know deep down.just dont get urself hurt

:(

take control of the future. dnt harp on the past.