ADHD / ADD Support Group

I struggle with getting so irritated when someone else is talking and being boring--I just want to scream and run away sometimes. I also am very self-conscious because I tend to talk too much and ramble and am afraid I'm being boring and irritating. Yeah, I empathize with you here.

One thing I know for sure is that I cannot think of anybody with ADD/ADHD that is "boring" Boring is not part of the package.
I know what you mean about conversations. I can't really conversate either, i'm too impatient. Talk is boring.

wow, i cannot believe how many of you go through this too. what a huge relief! hey, at least we can talk to eachother..

I try the pre-emtive strike approach too. Asking the person questions about things I am interested in that they are too. Trying to find a common ground with them in territory that might hold my attention too. Still not easy though.

I am the EXACT way!
Good to know I'm not alone.

It is a relief to know somebody struggles with the social piece of ADHD. Small talk is almost impossible.
I think I will try to be the conversation starter next time I have to be in a social setting-see how that works.

Hey don't feel bad, maybe your coworker has ADD too and like me can't shut up, and really doesn't care if you are listening! But seriously, why don't you plan something to talk about. Make a list of talking points.

Sacy this happens to me when i met new people or try to talk on the phone.I use to make notes and topic points when i was a teen dating , just so i would have something to say to new people. Social shyness along with ADHD was my problem.still is..that's why i love chat rooms and message boards.i can just respond without feel self conscious and ackward

I used to be a social butterfly... I was a "great listener" because I never interrupted... too bad they didn't know it was because I wasn't paying attention... Now I hardly talk at all. I hate being around people that feel like they have to be having a conversation ALL THE DAMN TIME. Just shut up. I don't care how many times your cat sneezed before you decided to bring her to the vet. I'm SO lucky that my husband is with me in most social situations. We ate at a restaurant in the airport this weekend and got shanghaied by some guy who wanted to tell us all about his girlfriend, the one he met on the internet and was flying out to see for the second time since October. I just kept my head down and let Zac talk... I had that "what should I say? This is really boring? Do I ask what color hair she has? What he does for work? What if I ask a question and he takes it as a sign that I care? Is he going to keep talking? What if he keeps talking to us and follows us to our gate? Should I be scared of this guy? He's really creepy, should I just tell him not to talk to me?" And all the while he's looking at me waiting for a response.... like I said, thank God my husband was there.

My friend base has gotten really small. I only hang out with people who are ok with me not talking. That means that my friends now are the friends I had 5 years ago, because they know me and my brain and if I don't have anything to add to a conversation I don't speak and they're ok with that. Kinda sad, because while getting to know new people can be wonderful and rewarding, it is so incredibly tedious and painful for me that I avoid it at all costs. Even those "friends" that I've had for a couple of years now but always just maintained a superficial relationship with have been trimmed out. I just don't have the energy for small-talk.