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I am sorry to hear what has happened to your son. How old is he? You say you dont know how to help him. Being there for him is helping him in one way. Maybe councelling could be an option. Has he spoken about what his grandfather did to him to anyone? It sounds like he is taking all his frustration out on your house. Maybe if he could talk to someone and let it out that way it may help in some way. I wish you luck and hope you find some anwsers and soon. BIG ((HUGS))

my son is a angry liile boy still trying to figuare out why I think my failing marriage is why but I've been making a point to hug him and kiss him every evening and tell him I love him give him his time with me and it has had a dramatic effect in a weeks time. Maybe your son could use exta love and reassurence that Grandpa was wong not him and that you are not happy grandpa did that to him. I'm sorry for what you guys are going through.

Oh my God that is horrible! Is Grampa going to jail? Your son needs to KNOW that it is not his fault you need to remind him every day and you also need to apologize for your part in all this. I am sure that you had no idea that his grandfather would do this to him but you still need to tell your son that if you had known that you never would have put him in danger. Kids that have this terrible thing happen to them need to know that it is the adult's fault and never theirs. Again, I am so terribly sorry to hear that this happened to your son. Counselling will help and if maybe there is a support group for you and your son that would help too. Stay strong, your son needs you more than ever right now.

Thank you, so much I am going to do everything your suggesting. I do tell my son I love him, and I have shown him alot of affection and attention. He knows it's not his fault. He is 5 years old. He is in counselling, and she is aware of the events. I am hoping he goes to jail, we have filed report against him, and are getting a lawyer. DCFS is involved. I am doing everything humanly possible to make sure this never happens again to anyone.
I really appriciate your advise thank you

I totally understand what you are going thru. My exhusband,my son's dad is in prison and my son was angry well two years ago he was molested by his 11 year old cousin, talk about a child in crisis. My son was angry about his dad being away and this just added to everything. My son also as ADHD, depression,PTSD. He has been in counsling for six years. I have him on risperdal for mood disorders, lexapro for anxiety and depression and adderall for the adhd. I will say I pushed to treat the mood and depression and anxieties before the adhd. Really the only reason I added adderall to his meds it that risperdal caused too much weight gain. Let your son know that his anger is ok but he needs to use his words or find other ways to express his anger. My son still feels it is his fault, I keep reminding him it was not. Let your son know you understand how frustrated he is or how angry he must be and its ok to feel this way. Take a couple dozen eggs and let your son throw them at a tree. Get a punching bag or let him kick at it like karate. Just let him know there are appropriate ways to release his anger.