ADHD / ADD Support Group

Hi I think I messed up. Sorta new at this. I just wanted to let you know a little bit about me. I am married and we have 4 children 2 are ADD and my son was just rediagonised as ODD. Here are my ups and my downs with these subjects. Lets see when I met my husband he was fighting for custody of his drug addicted twin girls. That went on for 18 months. I had one child and was expecting another. With the twins Dr. told us that there might be learning disablilties. I never imagiend ADD/ADHD. In 2000 the youngest twin was acting out herr grades were dropping. She was diagnoised with ADD and put on concerta. When the dr. wanted to talk to me allown I told him no she also needs to hear this. (I prayed that I was doing the right thing yet felt in my heart it was the right thing for her to stay and hear about it, after all her and her twin diminstrated intellagence beyoung my dreams.) 2001 my youngest was diagnoised ADD and also put on concerta and as the year went on my twin that was already on concerta was acting out in school. Throwoing tantrums, scissors at the teacher, stealing stupid things, but her grades stayed up. I wasn't experiencing any problems at home. So on her next visit to the Dr. he upped the concerta. Son was doing well on it. 2002 my other twin was diagnoised ADD same attatude as her twin except not to the extent as the other. Doing well on concerta. 2004 Husband and I split. He moves to another state to find a job. Son starts leaving home without asking. One night leaves for more then an hour it is getting late. I jump in my car looking for him and call the police. Finally get home and there he is with the police he had gone about 5 miles one way on his bike and was on his way back home when they caught up to him. 3 months go by and Husband and I are back together. We move to anotheer state. everyone but my son is doing fine. new Dr. puts him on a different medication. Doesn't work he starts to get worse. Next visit Dr. changes his medication again this time he hears voices. Take him to a new Dr. a psychitrist this dr. you can understand and continues to give different medications and not paying any attition to me or my son( at least that is the way I felt) School isn't going too well for him either. The school tests him to see if he qualifies for special ed. He dose but he starts the following year. 2005 he does his homework but doesn't turn it in. They keep him in at recess so that he makes the grade to move him on. at the end of the school year they tell me I can't hold him back becaue he is making a passing grade (only due to them keeping him in to do it) And I take him out of Special ed cause his self esteem has plumeted. Now we are in this year. Begining of this year he is getting into my purse and taking money then blowing it on junk. I pull him out of class to talk with him. I even went as far as taking a police officer in and handcuffing him cause he took over 200 within a week and blew over 1/2 of it. Put him in the hospital to try and figure out what was wrong. They did nothing for him. He came home he didn't steal anymore and he asked to go to his friends. But his anger got worse. his grades are failing. He has scared 2 volunteers at the after school program with just his anger, he is diruptive. But can control his anger at school and 90% at home but not at the asp. Now we are up to about a week ago. He comes in to the A.S.P. and was asked to put his coat up. His anger is out of control he finds some liquid soap and swollows it. Take him to the ER they put him in 4 point restraints. A 10 year old remind you. They then transport him to a behavior hospital in Chicago. They keep him on depakote and see some of the things we here at home and at the a.s.p. are going thru. The deside to place him on a fast acting medication for when he has his outbursts only given when needed along with the depakote 2 times a day. so that is where I am at now. You might ask yourself I do I deal with all this. I do plastic canvas which is a craft. I also have a crafting group. Believe me there are times when I feel like I am on auto piolit. I felt that way the day he swallowd the soap. I loose it. You aren't human if you don't but you also have to know your limits. My limits also depend on my stress level because I am diabetic and have been since I was 13 so I know what my body can handle and not. If I am not healthy enough to take care of my kids then who will take care of them besides my husband. Just keep calling on your higher power. Mine is God I pray everyday for strength and to guide my kids to do the right thing.

I hope I helped soome of you with my story. Stay strong and never give up on your kids no matter how much you may want to. Remember Giving up is a weakness and as my husband and I put it to our kids it is the chickens way out. You have to stand and fight cause if we don't fight for our children who will. That is the greatest love you can ever give your child(ren) is NEVER GIVING UP on them.

may God bless you and keep you close during your tring times with your children.
Posted on 01/26/07, 02:01 pm